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How to Make a Great First Impression

• Rebecca Knight

Prepare talking points ahead of time.

The saying “You only have one chance to make a first impression” holds true in many situations, from job interviews to sales calls. How can you make sure that you start off on the right foot in any of these scenarios? What should you actually say? And what’s the best way to follow up?

• RK Rebecca Knight is a journalist who writes about all things related to the changing nature of careers and the workplace. Her essays and reported stories have been featured in The Boston Globe, Business Insider, The New York Times, BBC, and The Christian Science Monitor. She was shortlisted as a Reuters Institute Fellow at Oxford University in 2023. Earlier in her career, she spent a decade as an editor and reporter at the Financial Times in New York, London, and Boston.

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How to Make a Good First Impression (With Examples)

Do you worry about how you come across to new people? Perhaps you feel anxious when you have to introduce yourself or find it hard to put your best foot forward when you’re on a date.

In this guide, you’ll learn how to make a great first impression when meeting someone new.

How to make a good first impression

What is a first impression, why are first impressions important, common questions.

People are quick to form impressions of each other. Research shows that within seconds of seeing a person for the first time, we start to make judgments about their likability, attractiveness, competence, trustworthiness, and aggression. [ 1 ]

Fortunately, you have some control over how other people see you. Here are some ways to create a positive and lasting first impression.

1. Make the other person feel good

If you can make the other person feel happy, uplifted, or positive about themselves, you will probably leave a great first impression.

It can also help to remember that many people feel nervous when meeting someone new, and around 50% of the population describe themselves as shy. [ 2 ] Even if the other person seems confident, they might be worried that you won’t like them. If you are friendly and put the other person at ease, you are likely to make a positive first impression.

For example:

• Greet the other person warmly using an enthusiastic tone of voice and smile at them. For example, you could say, “It’s good to meet you!” or “Hi, I’ve been looking forward to meeting you!” Show that you are happy to be spending time with them.
• Show an interest in them by asking questions. For example, if someone tells you they recently adopted a dog from a shelter, you could ask, “What breed is your dog?” Let yourself be curious about the other person; this will usually make it easier to come up with things to say.
• Thank them for their time or help (for example, if they have made time to interview you for a job).
• Use humor to make them laugh and show that you are friendly.
• When you say goodbye, tell them it’s been a pleasure to meet them.
• Remember their name. If you aren’t good at remembering names, try to create a mental association between their name and someone or something else. For example, if the other person’s name is Rachel and you have a cousin with the same name, try picturing the two of them standing together.
• If someone new joins the conversation, be warm and welcoming. For example, if you are hanging out with new friends in a group and someone new comes along, greet them, introduce yourself, and tell them what the group is talking about so that it’s easier for the new person to join in.

2. Be an engaged listener

If someone doesn’t think you care about what they are saying, you won’t make a good initial impression.

To be a better listener:

• When someone is talking to you, pay attention and process what they are saying rather than wait for your turn to talk or rehearsing your response in your head.
• Lean forward slightly, make eye contact, and nod to signal that you are interested in what they are saying.
• Summarize their main points in your own words. For example, if someone tells you that they are thinking about moving from the countryside to the city, but they can’t quite make up their mind, you could say, “So you’re saying that it’s hard to decide between staying where you are and moving to the city?”
• Do not interrupt.
• Try to reframe a boring conversation as a chance to learn something new.

Both men and women like people who are good listeners. When you’re on a date and want to make a positive impression on a girl or guy, try to focus on getting to know them rather than talking about yourself.

3. Take care of your appearance

If your first meeting with someone is face-to-face, your appearance is usually the first piece of information they learn about you. This also applies to online dating profiles where your photo appears before your bio.

Although we might like to think otherwise, research shows that we often judge each other on the basis of physical appearance. [ 3 ] Making the most of your looks can help you leave a good first impression.

• Stay on top of your personal grooming. Get regular haircuts, wear clean clothes, replace your shoes when they wear out and keep your facial hair neat if you have a beard or mustache.
• Choose clothes that fit you well. Research shows that men in tailored suits are assumed to be more successful, flexible, and confident than men dressed in off-the-peg suits. [ 4 ] These findings don’t necessarily mean everyone must have a tailored wardrobe, but finding clothes that fit properly is worth the effort.
• Make sure your outfit is right for the occasion. For example, stick to the dress code at work.
• Get enough sleep. Research shows that sleep deprivation makes you appear less attractive and less healthy. [ 5 ]

4. Be on time

Late people come across as inconsiderate, which does not leave a good first impression. If you keep someone waiting, the other person may interpret it as a sign that you do not value their time. Let the other person know as soon as possible if you are going to be late, and apologize when you arrive. Give a brief explanation for why you are late but don’t ramble. For example, “I am very sorry I’m late, I was held up in traffic” is fine.

5. Be yourself

If someone thinks you are putting on an act, they may hesitate to trust you. Authenticity is an attractive trait, and appearing “real” creates a good impression.

To appear genuine:

• Let your emotions show. For example, allow yourself to laugh when someone says something funny. You don’t have to play it cool to create a good impression. Use gestures and facial expressions to show how you feel. Be careful not to overdo it, or you may come off as insincere.
• Do not lie or exaggerate. Be honest about yourself, including both your strengths and limitations.
• Let yourself speak freely during conversations. You don’t want to cause offense, but it’s usually OK to say what’s on your mind or give your opinion, especially if someone asks for your input.
• Make your own decisions and state your preferences. For example, if you are at a job interview and the hiring manager asks whether you’d like to meet the people who would be your coworkers before or after your interview, it would probably be better to pick an option instead of saying, “Oh, I don’t mind.”

For more tips on how to get the balance right, check out our guide on how to be yourself.

Be ready to adapt to different situations

Being able to adapt your behavior to suit different situations, whether formal or informal, is a social skill. Following social rules doesn’t mean you are fake or inauthentic; it means you are socially competent.

It’s normal to behave differently depending on who you are with. For example, you probably avoid joking around in a business meeting because it would make you look unprofessional, but humor may make you more attractive when you’re on a date. [ 6 ] Try to see a social situation as an opportunity to showcase different sides of your personality.

Happy faces are perceived as trustworthy, [ 7 ] so smiling could help you make a good first impression. A quick trick to smile naturally and genuinely is to think of something that makes you happy. If you are very nervous, it can help to take a few deep breaths and try to relax the muscles in your jaw and face.

7. Be positive

You will usually make a better first impression and make people feel comfortable if you appear to be a positive person who knows how to enjoy yourself. You don’t need to act happy all the time, but try to resist complaining, venting, or moaning.

When you introduce yourself, add a positive comment or question after saying your name. For example, if you are meeting someone for the first time at a wedding, you could say, “Hey, I’m Alex. It’s lovely to meet you. The cake looks beautiful, doesn’t it?”

If this sounds difficult, it may help to work on becoming a more positive person in general. For more tips, see our article on how to be more positive.

8. Be courteous to everyone

Polite, well-mannered people tend to make more positive impressions than those who act rude. Remember basic etiquette. For example, always say “please” and “thank you,” avoid interrupting other people when they are speaking, and do not use vulgar language that could make others uncomfortable.

If you are going to a formal event and you aren’t sure which social rules you need to follow, check out an online etiquette guide.

9. Find common ground

People tend to like and befriend people who they believe are similar to themselves. [ 8 ] If you can make someone feel as though you have things in common, you will probably make a powerful first impression and build rapport.

When you meet someone new, look for similarities. If you work or study in the same place, you already have something important in common. For example, at school, you are studying the same subject as your classmates. This gives you lots of things to talk about, including your professors, upcoming exams, or experiments you are conducting in class.

Alternatively, you could try making small talk about several topics until you find something that interests the other person. When you find a topic that interests you both, the conversation will probably be more engaging for both of you.

Our guide on how to find things in common with someone contains strategies you can use to have deeper conversations and discover commonalities.

10. Prepare some talking points

If you know in advance that you’re going to meet someone new and you want to make a good impression, think of a few topics you could bring up. Having talking points ready to go can help you feel less nervous, which may help you come across as a confident person.

For example, if you want to make a good impression on your partner’s relatives, you could prepare a few questions on where their family comes from, what their relatives do for a living, and what your partner was like as a child.

11. Use confident body language

Most of us notice other peoples’ body language and use it to make judgments about them. For example, someone with a hunched-over posture usually comes across as introverted or submissive. [ 9 ] When you use confident body language, other people are likely to form a positive impression of you.

• Sit or stand upright (but not rigid) instead of slouching
• Keep your head level or tilted slightly upward [ 10 ]
• Use a firm handshake
• Avoid fidgeting
• Avoid wringing your hands or interlacing your fingers [ 10 ]
• Avoid touching your neck when speaking [ 10 ]
• Let your arms hang loose and allow them to move as you walk [ 10 ]

To appear more likable, try to keep your body language consistent with your verbal language. [ 11 ] For example, if you are telling a light-hearted story or joke, try to use a relaxed posture and avoid signs of nerves, such as tapping your fingers against your leg.

Make confident eye contact

A lack of eye contact isn’t a reliable sign that someone is lying, but most people interpret it as a sign of deception. They are more likely to believe what you are saying if you look them in the eye. [ 12 ]

However, be careful not to stare because constant eye contact can make you appear aggressive. Try to break eye contact every 4-5 seconds with a quick glance to the side. [ 13 ]

If you find eye contact challenging, check out our guide to confident eye contact.

12. Vary your pitch and tone of voice

The way you speak influences how other people see you. [ 14 ] For example, speaking in a monotone voice can make you come across as bored or apathetic, and talking loudly can make you come across as rude. Your voice is particularly important if you’re meeting over the phone because your facial expressions and body language aren’t giving the other person any clues about you.

To create a positive impression:

• Speak clearly; this may mean deliberately speaking more slowly than usual if you tend to speak fast.
• Try not to raise your pitch and tone at the end of a sentence unless you are asking a question, as this can make you sound unsure of yourself.
• To come across as trustworthy and competent, speak at a low rather than high pitch. [ 15 ]

We have a guide on how to stop mumbling and start speaking more clearly that may help.

When two people meet for the first time, they quickly make judgments about one another. [ 16 ] These judgments can be explicit (conscious) or implicit (unconscious). Together, they make up an initial perception of another person. In psychology, this perception is called a “first impression.” [ 17 ]

First impressions can have significant consequences. [ 18 ] For example, if someone has the impression that you aren’t trustworthy, they may be reluctant to open up to you, hire you for a job, or see you as a potential friend. You don’t need to make a perfect first impression, but behaving and dressing appropriately can make you more successful in both your personal and professional life.

Do first impressions last?

First impressions matter because they are powerful and can be hard to change, [ 17 ] but they are not always permanent. When we interact with other people, we update our impressions and judgments as we learn more about them. [ 19 ]

What color makes the best first impression?

There is no consensus on what color makes the best impression. Some studies have found that lighter, rather than darker, colors can leave a more positive impression in specific contexts (for example, for police in uniform), but these findings don’t necessarily apply to the general population. [ 20 ] [ 21 ]

What are some examples of bad first impressions?

Turning up late, failing to maintain eye contact, talking only about yourself, forgetting the other person’s name, and mumbling are a few examples of behaviors that will leave a bad first impression.

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• Brambilla, M., Carraro, L., Castelli, L., & Sacchi, S. (2019). Changing impressions: Moral character dominates impression updating . Journal of Experimental Social Psychology , 82 , 64–73.
• Vrij, A. (1997). Wearing Black Clothes: The Impact of Offenders’ and Suspects’ Clothing on Impression Formation. Applied Cognitive Psychology , 11 (1), 47–53.
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How to Make the Best First Impression, According to Experts

Everyone can make snap judgments, especially when meeting someone new.

In less than one-tenth of a second of seeing someone for the first time, our brain processes information about the person’s face—which leads to quick conclusions about a new acquaintance’s qualities, including trustworthiness, competency, friendliness, honesty and morality—according to a 2006 study published in Psychological Science . This tendency dates back to evolutionary times, when we would encounter strangers and, for survival purposes, need to assess whether they would inflict harm or be an ally, says Vivian Zayas, a professor of psychology at Cornell University.

Most of us believe the first impressions we come up with, too, says Alexander Todorov, a professor of psychology at Princeton University and author of Face Value: The Irresistible Influence of First Impressions . And although sometimes they can be misleading, first impressions do form people’s view of a person.

“Once we have a representation formed, it’s used as a filter,” says Zayas. Think someone’s trustworthy right off the bat? You might tell them more. And if you write them off as a negative person, you might complain about them to coworkers.

Fortunately, there are ways to leave a strong lasting impression. Here’s how to make sure others are viewing you in a positive light.

Know your context

It’s important to first consider where you are trying to make a good impression—whether it’s a formal job interview or a dinner date. The reason is simple: context matters. It gives you cues as to how you should dress, look and behave, Zayas says. If you’re interviewing at a bank for example, you’ll likely be expected to show up in a suit. Choosing attire, grooming habits and conversation styles that appropriately match the setting you are entering are key aspects of making a good impression, she says.

“As social beings, we use everything available to make sense of a person that we’re meeting for the first time,” says Zayas.

And while a firm handshake and a small smile might fit the bill for a third-round meeting with the boss, matching someone’s pondering posture at an art gallery and commenting on the artwork might be appropriate if you’re trying to start casual conversation in that setting, says Nicholas Boothman, author of How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less .

Adjust your attitude

If you’re having a good day, you probably look happy and people might be more likely to form a positive impression of you, Todorov says. Alternatively, if you’re having a bad day, you might appear unapproachable.

“We sort of scan the world for threats, and facial expressions are really primarily processed,” says Ann Demarais, founder of First Impressions, a New York-based coaching and consulting company. “On a very deep level, if someone is frowning or looks threatening, we register that as ‘Watch out.’”

Instead of thinking of attitudes as good or bad, think about them as useful or useless, Boothman suggests. A useful attitude is welcoming, curious and enthusiastic. A useless one is acting bored, rude or hostile.

You can create a useful attitude by smiling at someone, making eye contact long enough to notice the color of that person’s eyes, or sitting without crossing your arms or legs, says Boothman. This will project a warm, open and positive impression.

If you’re having a hard time with the attitude adjustment, try thinking back to a time when you felt enthusiastic or resourceful to get your mind into a better place, Boothman suggests.

If you’re nervous, say something silly to yourself before you walk into a room. You’ll find your attitude and expression will instantly adjust, he says.

Search for common ground

People who have an easy time connecting with others often find common ground with someone else in just a few seconds, says Boothman. Asking observant questions like, “Does this person have an accent?” or “Is he or she wearing something you recognize?” can help foster an instant connection.

“We tend to like people who are a little bit similar to us,” says Zayas.

If you’re operating from a blank slate, start with your shared environment—like commenting on the weather or something you notice in your surroundings, then move to facts—like the reason you’re gathering or a recent news story, says Demarais. You’re likely to find something you both connect with.

Shift the focus from yourself to others

In new situations, we tend to notice how we’re feeling instead of how others are feeling, Demarais points out. But experts say we should pay more attention to those around us. “People always remember how you made them feel,” she says.

Taking the focus off of yourself and putting it on someone else can help others perceive you in a better light. For example, making someone feel appreciated, finding a point of commonality to bond over or sharing something interesting you’ve learned can all improve how you’re received, Demarais says.

Get a good night’s sleep

When you’re sleep-deprived, you appear different, Todorov says. “The skin is much paler, which is often a signal for sickness; you have shadows under the eyes; the corners of the mouth are slightly turned downward,” he says.

And multiple studies suggest that skimping on shut-eye can lead others to perceive you as less attractive, less smart, more depressed and less healthy.

“If you’re really sleep-deprived, you’re not going to do well on any kind of task,” he notes. And while appearing overly fatigued might not be an accurate portrayal of who you are, it can adversely contribute to people’s first impression of you, Todorov says.

Being well-rested —putting a solid eight hours in the night before a big event—is one way to present yourself well, he notes.

Be yourself

In order to make a good first impression , it’s important to be genuine. If you’re constantly worried about whether or not you’re doing or saying the right thing, you could appear insincere or too strategic, Zayas cautions. “The other person’s going to pick up on that inauthenticity and I think it can be a little bit of a signal that there’s something you’re hiding,” she says. “It can make the person not want to trust you.”

If someone you’re trying to impress brings up a movie that you hated, don’t lie through your teeth. Rather than agreeing you enjoyed it, pick out one specific part you did enjoy, says Demarais.

And if your nerves are getting the best of you but the setting allows for candor, admitting to your nerves can help show your true self —it may even make you seem all the more endearing.

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How to Start a Personal Statement: Crafting a Compelling Introduction

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If you’re wondering how to start a personal statement, you’ve come to the right place. This guide will go over everything you need to know. 

Your personal statement is your opportunity to shine in the competitive world of college applications, and it all begins with a captivating introduction. Crafting an engaging opening is essential to grab the admissions committee's attention and leave a lasting impression. 

In this guide, we'll explore the art of starting a personal statement, providing you with valuable tips and examples to help you create a compelling introduction that sets the stage for your unique story.

How Important Is the Opening in a Personal Statement

The opening of a personal statement is a crucial element in the college application process. It serves as your initial opportunity to capture the attention of the admissions committee. It can be likened to the "hook" that draws the reader into your narrative.

While a strong opening for your personal statement is vital, the rest of it should be equally well-crafted, engaging, and meaningful. Every part of your statement, from start to finish, should work together to create a compelling story that leaves a lasting impression on the reader.

Defining the Purpose of a Personal Statement Introduction

The introduction of a personal statement serves several key purposes:

• Engages the Reader : It is designed to engage the reader's interest from the outset, whether through a compelling story, a thought-provoking question, or a powerful statement. It functions as the opening act that sets the stage for the entire narrative.
• Hints at the Theme : The introduction often provides a glimpse of the central theme or message you aim to convey throughout your personal statement. It serves as an initial preview of what's to come.
• Reveals Your Identity : It offers a brief insight into your identity as an applicant, going beyond mere achievements to reveal your personality, values, or passions.
• Creates Curiosity : A well-crafted introduction sparks curiosity, motivating the reader to explore further and discover why you're a standout candidate.
• Demonstrates Your Writing Skills : Additionally, it serves as a showcase for your writing abilities, demonstrating your capacity to communicate effectively.

In essence, the introduction acts as a gateway into your personal statement, inviting the admissions committee to delve deeper into your experiences, values, and aspirations as they read through your narrative.

Selecting the Right Approach

Choosing the approach for your personal statement's introduction is key. It's a decision that sets the tone for the entire narrative. While there are various approaches to consider, the key is to choose the one that aligns best with the unique story you aim to convey in your personal statement.

Crafting an Anecdotal Introduction

Starting your personal statement with a personal anecdote is like opening a door to your life, and welcoming the reader in. Anecdotes provide a glimpse into a specific moment or experience that left a mark. 

This approach makes your narrative relatable and forges an instant connection with the reader. It lets you convey your emotions, personal growth, and lessons clearly and engagingly.

Using a Thought-Provoking Question

A well-crafted question can pique the reader's interest and encourage them to explore your story further. It can also hint at the main message you want to convey in your personal statement.

Starting with a Relevant Quote

Including a quote from a respected figure or author in your intro for your personal statement can add depth and authority. It's like tapping into the wisdom of those who have paved the way before you. 

A thoughtfully selected quote encapsulates the core message of your personal statement and has the potential to resonate with the reader. It acts as a bridge, connecting your personal narrative to a broader world of knowledge and insight.

Employing an Intriguing Statistic or Fact

If your personal statement is about a particular topic, you can start with an eye-catching statistic or fact. 

Showing strong evidence right at the beginning helps to grab the reader's attention and set the stage for your story. Just make sure your introduction fits well with the rest of your personal statement.

How Can I Determine Which Approach Is Most Suitable for My Personal Statement?

Determining the most suitable approach for your college application personal statement depends on several factors, ensuring you present the most authentic and compelling version of yourself to admissions officers. Here's how to decide:

• Reflect on Your College Journey : Think about your high school experiences, academic achievements, extracurricular involvement, and any personal challenges you've faced. Consider what aspects of your journey you want the admissions committee to know.
• Understand the Admissions Committee : Get to know the audience that will be reviewing your application – the admissions officers. Research the college's values, mission, and what they seek in prospective students.
• Review Successful Examples : Study successful personal statements from students who gained admission to your target colleges. Analyze their introductions to see which approach resonates with you and aligns with your own story.
• Assess Your Writing Style : Reflect on your natural writing style. Are you a storyteller, a thinker who asks thought-provoking questions, or someone who effectively uses quotes or statistics to make a point?
• Match Approach to Your Message : Ensure that the chosen introduction approach matches the central message or theme you want to convey. It should set the stage for the story you aim to tell about your journey, goals, and aspirations.
• Seek Feedback : Share your draft introduction with teachers, mentors, or peers who are familiar with college application processes. They can offer insights on which approach best showcases your strengths and uniqueness.
• Edit and Refine : Don't hesitate to revise your introduction multiple times. Experiment with different approaches until you find the one that captures your essence and engages the admissions committee.
• Reach out for Help : Don't hesitate to reach out for help. Quad Education offers personalized personal statement support that can help you craft an introduction that truly stands out.

Remember, the goal is to select an approach that authentically represents you, resonates with the college's values, and captivates the admissions committee's attention. Your personal voice and narrative should shine through in your chosen approach.

How Long Should the Introduction of a Personal Statement Be?

The length of the introduction in your personal statement should align with the word limit guidelines provided by the specific application platform you are using. Here are the recommended word limits for some common application portals:

• Common Application : The Common Application typically allows for a personal statement ranging from 250 to 650 words. For the introduction, aim for brevity, usually consisting of two or three sentences.
• Coalition Application : The Coalition Application recommends a personal statement of 500 to 650 words. Similarly, for the introduction, keep it concise, typically two or three sentences.
• QuestBridge Application : The QuestBridge Application typically has a word limit of 650 words. In this case, you can include a slightly longer introduction, but it's still important to maintain a concise and engaging opening, often consisting of two to three sentences.

Remember that the goal of your introduction is to grab the reader's attention and set the stage for the rest of your personal statement, so keeping it focused and impactful is key. 

Dos and Don'ts of Personal Statement Openings

Let's explore the essential dos and don'ts when it comes to crafting the opening of your personal statement. These guidelines will help you understand how to begin a personal statement that stands out from the crowd. 

• Understand the Essay Prompt : Make sure you have a good grasp on the essay prompt to address it effectively, as it guides the direction of your personal statement and demonstrates your ability to follow instructions.
• Start Strong : Begin with a compelling hook that immediately grabs the reader's attention in your opening sentence for your personal statement. You want to make a memorable first impression.
• Express Passion : Showcase your genuine enthusiasm for your chosen field of study or topic. Let your excitement shine through in your opening lines.
• Stay True to Yourself : Be authentic and let your unique voice come through. Admissions officers appreciate honesty and authenticity.
• Set the Tone : The best way to start a personal statement is to use it to set the tone for the rest of your personal statement. Whether it's reflective, emotional, or informative, make it clear from the start.
• Show Motivation : Share what motivates and inspires you in your chosen path or major. Explain why you are passionate about it and what drives your interest.

Don'ts

• Avoid Clichés : Stay away from overused phrases or clichés in your opening. Aim to stand out and be original.
• Don't Start with a Quote Without Context : If you use a quote, ensure it's relevant to your story, and provide context for why you've chosen it.
• Steer Clear of Over-Formality : While your writing should be polished, don't make your opening overly formal or academic. Keep it engaging and relatable.
• Avoid Jargon : Refrain from using technical or field-specific jargon that the admissions officers may not understand. Keep your language accessible.
• Don't Begin with Apologies : Resist the temptation to start with apologies or self-deprecating statements. Focus on your strengths, aspirations, and what makes you stand out from the crowd instead.

Remember, your opening should entice the reader, offer a glimpse of your unique qualities, and build interest in your personal statement. It's your chance to make a strong first impression.

Examples of Personal Statement Starters That Worked

Let's dive into examples of personal statement starters that have proven to be effective in capturing the attention of admissions committees. These real-life openings can serve as inspiration for your own introduction.

Statement Example 1

“We stood in a circle on stage, introducing ourselves with our names and experience. The other students had lengthy lists, shows I hadn’t even heard of. Barely audible, I mumbled “I was [THE LEAD PROTAGONIST] in [A PLAY] five years ago.” I expected a laugh, this new kid who thought he could compete. Instead, a voice spoke up: “No way, I remember that show! Remember how we put the kids in their spots before curtains?” It was [FRIEND’S NAME] from elementary school, who had been opposite me as [THE ANTAGONIST].”

Statement Example 2

“I’m not good at making friends. In fact, if there was an award for the person who’s been the most unlucky with friends, it would go to me. I was shy when I was a little kid and that was only amplified when I moved across from [STATE] to [STATE], and then back to [ANOTHER CITY IN HOME STATE]. The constant move put me in six different schools, ranging from private to public to charter. During that time period, I rotated between three different homeschools. 

When it came to making friends, I would latch onto anyone who would take me. A bad habit yes, but it was the only way I knew how to make friends. Unfortunately, the ones who I latched onto the most were the ones who bullied me both verbally and physically.

It wasn’t until my freshman year of high school that I just stopped trying to make friends.

During my second semester of [CLASS] was when I first met an individual named [NAME]. I showed him a video of some adult getting stuck on a kid slide, and he thought I was weird. After that incident, he didn’t talk to me much after that, until a week later when I caught him walking his dog. I called out to him and we had a little conversation before going our separate ways. After that, we hung out more and more. The pandemic certainly brought us together as we lived close and it was convenient.

One afternoon, we were talking about how he was having motivational issues at school. He didn’t care anymore and just wanted to be done with it. He was debating whether or not he was dropping out of high school and I was trying to calm him down. I was trying to get him to see all sides before making a decision. Towards the end, after we’d talked through it all, we were both crying which was weird. Neither of us ever cried, especially not in front of others. I hadn't cried in front of someone who wasn’t family since I was six. It was one of the many things we had in common.

At the end of the call he said, “I love you [NAME], you're my best friend.” 

At that moment I just felt so happy it was honestly one of the kindest things I’d ever been told. It’s so weird because that’s something that people just say to one another right? It was the first time I heard that from someone outside of my family.

I’ll always love [NAME] for giving me that standard of what a friend should and could be. It wasn’t until I heard it from him that I understood the impact it could have on a person not hearing it. It’s such a gift to hear the appreciation one has for you.

It had been so long since I had a good friend, that when he told me about his appreciation for me, I just couldn’t stop crying. I was so happy to have a true friend who I could call my best friend.

Now, I don’t let people go below what I like to call the [NAME] standard’. If I feel like someone is not treating me or my friends fairly, I don’t entertain their company.

What [NAME] did wasn’t anything extravagant. He didn’t give his kidney and he didn’t race down the 101 to save me from some terrible tragedy. However, the appreciation that [NAME] showed for me and how he vocalized who I was to him, meant all the difference to me.

Now, I always let my friends know that I appreciate them and that I am thankful to have them in my life. This gift has helped me with choosing better friends who I love and appreciate. Thanks to Ben, he’s shown me how great life is when you're not alone.”

Statement Example 3

“In the summer of [YEAR], my sister was graduating college. My family and I drove to [CITY] to give our unconditional love and support and to celebrate. We ate dinner at a beautiful restaurant together and shared an amazing cake the day before. Unfortunately, it became the most tumultuous time in my life. The 8 hour drive back was brutal on my workaholic dad; he neglected his health to keep a bright future for me and my sister. A few days after coming home, my dad went to the doctor with aggravating chest pain. Soon after, the doctor dropped the news: my dad suffered a heart attack. I was [AGE], the youngest in my family, and refused to believe that my dad’s life could be cut short. Around this time, I was irresponsible and jaded; uncomfortable being empathetic, and always wishing problems to go away. The news weighed heavily on my shoulders. As I studied my dad’s condition, I soon realized and understood the great lengths he had worked to provide me a better future. Ultimately, I knew I had to change to be better for myself and for my dad. Post procedures, my dad returned home. Consequently, I was more empathetic, open to being vulnerable, and affectionate towards family which I had previously been too afraid to express. I would regularly hug my family members, didn’t hesitate to speak up if I was feeling scared or frustrated, listened to my dad more attentively, and I smiled more. Over the summer, I took care of my dad: I paid attention to his sodium intake, made sure he drank enough water, started doing his laundry, and slept in his room in case anything happened. There was nothing else that mattered more to me. I’m proud to say I can be vulnerable and act on my insecurities. I became an amicable, self-aware, and social person gaining respect and friendship amongst teachers and peers. Throughout college, I make sure to spend time with my family by cooking dinner for them once a week, sending them silly texts of cute animals, or just giving them a call. My transition to becoming more open has ultimately led to my career path as an [JOB TITLE] - creating better lives for marginalized communities. Understanding what other people go through and being susceptible will allow me to properly achieve my goals and assist those in need. It’s [YEAR], and my dad is in the best shape of his life. I show my gratitude by accompanying him during his checkups and scolding him for trying to eat poorly.”

Now that you know how to start a personal statement, examples can provide valuable insight. Use these examples as inspiration to write your own personal statement intros. 

Understanding how to start a personal statement is crucial to making a strong first impression. Keep reading to learn more about how to go about it. 

1. Is It Acceptable to Use Humor or Unconventional Methods Personal Statement Intro?

Yes, you can include humor or unconventional approaches in your personal statement introduction, but make sure to use them thoughtfully. If you decide to add humor, ensure it's appropriate and aligns with the overall tone of your essay. 

Similarly, unconventional methods should add to your narrative rather than take away from it. Always keep in mind the context and the preferences of the college or university you're applying to.

2. How Do I Capture the Reader's Attention in the First Few Lines of My Personal Statement?

To grab the reader's attention right away, consider starting with a captivating anecdote, a thought-provoking question, a relevant quote, or an intriguing statistic or fact. These techniques can spark the reader's curiosity and encourage them to dive deeper into your personal statement.

3. What Are Some Common Mistakes to Avoid When Starting a Personal Statement?

Some common blunders when starting a personal statement include:

• Using overused clichés or melodramatic statements that lack originality.
• Including irrelevant details that don't contribute to your narrative.
• Creating an excessively long or vague introduction that fails to engage the reader effectively.
• Focusing solely on personal experiences without connecting them to your chosen field of study or the values of the college or university.

Final Thoughts

To sum it up, your personal statement's opening is crucial in your college application, but it shouldn't overshadow the rest of your narrative. Choose an approach that suits your story, stay within word limits, and make a strong but concise first impression. 

Your goal is to engage the reader while being authentic and avoiding common mistakes. Now that you know how to start a personal statement, you can make your mark on the admissions committee. Good luck with your college applications!

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How to Write Your Personal Statement | Strategies & Examples

Published on February 12, 2019 by Shona McCombes . Revised on July 3, 2023.

A personal statement is a short essay of around 500–1,000 words, in which you tell a compelling story about who you are, what drives you, and why you’re applying.

To write a successful personal statement for a graduate school application , don’t just summarize your experience; instead, craft a focused narrative in your own voice. Aim to demonstrate three things:

• Your personality: what are your interests, values, and motivations?
• Your talents: what can you bring to the program?
• Your goals: what do you hope the program will do for you?

This article guides you through some winning strategies to build a strong, well-structured personal statement for a master’s or PhD application. You can download the full examples below.

Urban Planning Psychology History

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Getting started with your personal statement, the introduction: start with an attention-grabbing opening, the main body: craft your narrative, the conclusion: look ahead, revising, editing, and proofreading your personal statement, frequently asked questions, other interesting articles.

Before you start writing, the first step is to understand exactly what’s expected of you. If the application gives you a question or prompt for your personal statement, the most important thing is to respond to it directly.

For example, you might be asked to focus on the development of your personal identity; challenges you have faced in your life; or your career motivations. This will shape your focus and emphasis—but you still need to find your own unique approach to answering it.

There’s no universal template for a personal statement; it’s your chance to be creative and let your own voice shine through. But there are strategies you can use to build a compelling, well-structured story.

The first paragraph of your personal statement should set the tone and lead smoothly into the story you want to tell.

Strategy 1: Open with a concrete scene

An effective way to catch the reader’s attention is to set up a scene that illustrates something about your character and interests. If you’re stuck, try thinking about:

• A personal experience that changed your perspective
• A story from your family’s history
• A memorable teacher or learning experience
• An unusual or unexpected encounter

To write an effective scene, try to go beyond straightforward description; start with an intriguing sentence that pulls the reader in, and give concrete details to create a convincing atmosphere.

Strategy 2: Open with your motivations

To emphasize your enthusiasm and commitment, you can start by explaining your interest in the subject you want to study or the career path you want to follow.

Just stating that it interests you isn’t enough: first, you need to figure out why you’re interested in this field:

• Is it a longstanding passion or a recent discovery?
• Does it come naturally or have you had to work hard at it?
• How does it fit into the rest of your life?
• What do you think it contributes to society?

Tips for the introduction

• Don’t start on a cliche: avoid phrases like “Ever since I was a child…” or “For as long as I can remember…”
• Do save the introduction for last. If you’re struggling to come up with a strong opening, leave it aside, and note down any interesting ideas that occur to you as you write the rest of the personal statement.

Once you’ve set up the main themes of your personal statement, you’ll delve into more detail about your experiences and motivations.

To structure the body of your personal statement, there are various strategies you can use.

Strategy 1: Describe your development over time

One of the simplest strategies is to give a chronological overview of key experiences that have led you to apply for graduate school.

• What first sparked your interest in the field?
• Which classes, assignments, classmates, internships, or other activities helped you develop your knowledge and skills?
• Where do you want to go next? How does this program fit into your future plans?

Don’t try to include absolutely everything you’ve done—pick out highlights that are relevant to your application. Aim to craft a compelling narrative that shows how you’ve changed and actively developed yourself.

My interest in psychology was first sparked early in my high school career. Though somewhat scientifically inclined, I found that what interested me most was not the equations we learned about in physics and chemistry, but the motivations and perceptions of my fellow students, and the subtle social dynamics that I observed inside and outside the classroom. I wanted to learn how our identities, beliefs, and behaviours are shaped through our interactions with others, so I decided to major in Social Psychology. My undergraduate studies deepened my understanding of, and fascination with, the interplay between an individual mind and its social context.During my studies, I acquired a solid foundation of knowledge about concepts like social influence and group dynamics, but I also took classes on various topics not strictly related to my major. I was particularly interested in how other fields intersect with psychology—the classes I took on media studies, biology, and literature all enhanced my understanding of psychological concepts by providing different lenses through which to look at the issues involved.

Strategy 2: Own your challenges and obstacles

If your path to graduate school hasn’t been easy or straightforward, you can turn this into a strength, and structure your personal statement as a story of overcoming obstacles.

• Is your social, cultural or economic background underrepresented in the field? Show how your experiences will contribute a unique perspective.
• Do you have gaps in your resume or lower-than-ideal grades? Explain the challenges you faced and how you dealt with them.

Don’t focus too heavily on negatives, but use them to highlight your positive qualities. Resilience, resourcefulness and perseverance make you a promising graduate school candidate.

Growing up working class, urban decay becomes depressingly familiar. The sight of a row of abandoned houses does not surprise me, but it continues to bother me. Since high school, I have been determined to pursue a career in urban planning. While people of my background experience the consequences of urban planning decisions first-hand, we are underrepresented in the field itself. Ironically, given my motivation, my economic background has made my studies challenging. I was fortunate enough to be awarded a scholarship for my undergraduate studies, but after graduation I took jobs in unrelated fields to help support my parents. In the three years since, I have not lost my ambition. Now I am keen to resume my studies, and I believe I can bring an invaluable perspective to the table: that of the people most impacted by the decisions of urban planners.

Strategy 3: Demonstrate your knowledge of the field

Especially if you’re applying for a PhD or another research-focused program, it’s a good idea to show your familiarity with the subject and the department. Your personal statement can focus on the area you want to specialize in and reflect on why it matters to you.

• Reflect on the topics or themes that you’ve focused on in your studies. What draws you to them?
• Discuss any academic achievements, influential teachers, or other highlights of your education.
• Talk about the questions you’d like to explore in your research and why you think they’re important.

The personal statement isn’t a research proposal , so don’t go overboard on detail—but it’s a great opportunity to show your enthusiasm for the field and your capacity for original thinking.

In applying for this research program, my intention is to build on the multidisciplinary approach I have taken in my studies so far, combining knowledge from disparate fields of study to better understand psychological concepts and issues. The Media Psychology program stands out to me as the perfect environment for this kind of research, given its researchers’ openness to collaboration across diverse fields. I am impressed by the department’s innovative interdisciplinary projects that focus on the shifting landscape of media and technology, and I hope that my own work can follow a similarly trailblazing approach. More specifically, I want to develop my understanding of the intersection of psychology and media studies, and explore how media psychology theories and methods might be applied to neurodivergent minds. I am interested not only in media psychology but also in psychological disorders, and how the two interact. This is something I touched on during my undergraduate studies and that I’m excited to delve into further.

Strategy 4: Discuss your professional ambitions

Especially if you’re applying for a more professionally-oriented program (such as an MBA), it’s a good idea to focus on concrete goals and how the program will help you achieve them.

• If your career is just getting started, show how your character is suited to the field, and explain how graduate school will help you develop your talents.
• If you have already worked in the profession, show what you’ve achieved so far, and explain how the program will allow you to take the next step.
• If you are planning a career change, explain what has driven this decision and how your existing experience will help you succeed.

Don’t just state the position you want to achieve. You should demonstrate that you’ve put plenty of thought into your career plans and show why you’re well-suited to this profession.

One thing that fascinated me about the field during my undergraduate studies was the sheer number of different elements whose interactions constitute a person’s experience of an urban environment. Any number of factors could transform the scene I described at the beginning: What if there were no bus route? Better community outreach in the neighborhood? Worse law enforcement? More or fewer jobs available in the area? Some of these factors are out of the hands of an urban planner, but without taking them all into consideration, the planner has an incomplete picture of their task. Through further study I hope to develop my understanding of how these disparate elements combine and interact to create the urban environment. I am interested in the social, psychological and political effects our surroundings have on our lives. My studies will allow me to work on projects directly affecting the kinds of working-class urban communities I know well. I believe I can bring my own experiences, as well as my education, to bear upon the problem of improving infrastructure and quality of life in these communities.

Tips for the main body

• Don’t rehash your resume by trying to summarize everything you’ve done so far; the personal statement isn’t about listing your academic or professional experience, but about reflecting, evaluating, and relating it to broader themes.
• Do make your statements into stories: Instead of saying you’re hard-working and self-motivated, write about your internship where you took the initiative to start a new project. Instead of saying you’ve always loved reading, reflect on a novel or poem that changed your perspective.

Your conclusion should bring the focus back to the program and what you hope to get out of it, whether that’s developing practical skills, exploring intellectual questions, or both.

Emphasize the fit with your specific interests, showing why this program would be the best way to achieve your aims.

Strategy 1: What do you want to know?

If you’re applying for a more academic or research-focused program, end on a note of curiosity: what do you hope to learn, and why do you think this is the best place to learn it?

If there are specific classes or faculty members that you’re excited to learn from, this is the place to express your enthusiasm.

Strategy 2: What do you want to do?

If you’re applying for a program that focuses more on professional training, your conclusion can look to your career aspirations: what role do you want to play in society, and why is this program the best choice to help you get there?

Tips for the conclusion

• Don’t summarize what you’ve already said. You have limited space in a personal statement, so use it wisely!
• Do think bigger than yourself: try to express how your individual aspirations relate to your local community, your academic field, or society more broadly. It’s not just about what you’ll get out of graduate school, but about what you’ll be able to give back.

You’ll be expected to do a lot of writing in graduate school, so make a good first impression: leave yourself plenty of time to revise and polish the text.

Your style doesn’t have to be as formal as other kinds of academic writing, but it should be clear, direct and coherent. Make sure that each paragraph flows smoothly from the last, using topic sentences and transitions to create clear connections between each part.

Don’t be afraid to rewrite and restructure as much as necessary. Since you have a lot of freedom in the structure of a personal statement, you can experiment and move information around to see what works best.

Finally, it’s essential to carefully proofread your personal statement and fix any language errors. Before you submit your application, consider investing in professional personal statement editing . For $150, you have the peace of mind that your personal statement is grammatically correct, strong in term of your arguments, and free of awkward mistakes.

A statement of purpose is usually more formal, focusing on your academic or professional goals. It shouldn’t include anything that isn’t directly relevant to the application.

A personal statement can often be more creative. It might tell a story that isn’t directly related to the application, but that shows something about your personality, values, and motivations.

However, both types of document have the same overall goal: to demonstrate your potential as a graduate student and s how why you’re a great match for the program.

The typical length of a personal statement for graduate school applications is between 500 and 1,000 words.

Different programs have different requirements, so always check if there’s a minimum or maximum length and stick to the guidelines. If there is no recommended word count, aim for no more than 1-2 pages.

If you’re applying to multiple graduate school programs, you should tailor your personal statement to each application.

Some applications provide a prompt or question. In this case, you might have to write a new personal statement from scratch: the most important task is to respond to what you have been asked.

If there’s no prompt or guidelines, you can re-use the same idea for your personal statement – but change the details wherever relevant, making sure to emphasize why you’re applying to this specific program.

If the application also includes other essays, such as a statement of purpose , you might have to revise your personal statement to avoid repeating the same information.

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First Impressions: Everything You Need to Make a Good Introduction

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How to Make a Good First Impression

• Signs of a Good Impression
• Why It Matters
• Overcoming a Bad Impression

First impressions are the initial opinions that people form the first time they meet another person. Such judgments occur very quickly and are based on the immediate, limited information that is available.

The first impressions people form are often based on immediate observations about characteristics, such as how others look, how they act, what they say, and their general attitude. However, people also bring their own past experiences, expectations, biases , and misapprehensions to the situations when forming impressions.

While first impressions play an important role in how people feel about others, how they treat them, and the future development of the relationship, such perceptions can be biased and inaccurate.

Because first impressions can be wrong, it is important to remember that you should look at other information beyond your initial perceptions when you are making judgments about other people.

This article discusses what you can do to make a good first impression and how to gauge whether or not you have succeeded. It also offers tips for what you can do to help overcome a bad first impression.

Making a good first impression is important, particularly in certain situations. If you are trying to make a good impression on other people, there are some strategies that can help.

Be Aware of Your Body Language

Nonverbal signals can convey a great deal of information, so it is important to make sure that your body language reinforces the impression you are trying to make.

Maintain an open posture and make sure you keep your body angled toward the other person. Sit or stand straight and keep your arms at your sides and your legs straight. Crossing your arms or legs can seem closed off or even defensive.

Watch Your Expressions

In addition to using good body language, be sure to watch how you are responding with your facial expressions. Smiling , for example, can help convey warmth and genuine interest.  

If you are feeling tense, such as during a job interview or while speaking in public, try to maintain a relaxed expression. Researchers have found that people perceive people with happy expressions as more trustworthy.

Dress Appropriately

Appearance, including how you dress, can help convey information about who you are to others. If you are dressed correctly for the occasion, it may help people form a good impression of you.

This doesn't mean that you can't express yourself through your appearance, but it is important to consider how you want to be perceived. Choose clothing that looks neat, is suited to the occasion, and helps you feel comfortable and confident when meeting new people.

Different situations have different expectations. A job interview would necessitate a more formal, professional appearance, whereas meeting a new friend for coffee would involve more casual dress.

Consider Your Words

When speaking to others, focus on using language that is polite, respectful, and non-judgmental. While there are certain opinions or subjects you might feel comfortable discussing with people who already know you well, it is best to try to be considerate of other people's feelings and backgrounds when you are first introduced.

Knowing how to make small talk can be helpful. Neutral topics such as the weather, hobbies, sports, travel, and food can be great icebreakers. Just be sure to avoid critical or controversial opinions, such as trash-talking the other person's favorite sports team.

Instead, try asking open-ended questions about the other person, such as what they are reading or what they enjoy doing in their free time. It can be a great way to convey genuine interest and help the other person form the impression that you are attentive and genuine.

Show Interest in Others

When you are speaking to someone new, practice active listening. Be genuinely interested in what they have to say and make sure that you are listening to their responses.

Focus on the other person is also a great strategy if you are feeling anxious about meeting new people. By concentrating on the other person, you're less likely to focus on your own nervousness.

If you are nervous on a first date, for example, focus on the other person. Express interest in what they have to say and ask questions in a way that feels natural (and not like an interrogation or job interview).

How to Know If You’ve Made a Good First Impression

It isn't always easy or even possible to tell if you've made a good first impression on others. However, there are clues that you can watch for that might provide a bit of insight into what the other person is thinking and feeling:

• Positive feedback : In some cases, people might offer direct feedback about how they are feeling about your meeting. A job interviewer, for example, might tell a job candidate that they are exactly right for the role or indicate that they are impressed by the interviewee's credentials.
• Positive nonverbal signals : Body language that conveys warmth, comfort, and interest is always a good sign. If your conversation partner seems like they enjoy talking to you, it is a good sign that they are forming a positive first impression.
• Further interest : If the other person follows up and contacts you again after your initial meeting, you probably made a good first impression. For example, if you give a potential romantic partner your phone number and they follow up with a text or phone call, it means they were impressed enough to express interest in meeting again.
• Interest in socializing : If you've made a good first impression, the other person might reach out about getting together again. Or they might invite you to participate in some type of activity, such as another date or a potential work project.

Why First Impressions Are Important

People are evolutionarily wired to make snap judgments and quick decisions about others. These initial impressions may be based on very limited information, but they can affect how people see each other, set the tone for future interactions, and leave a lasting mark on how people view one another.

Initial Impressions Affect Other Assumptions

A phenomenon known as the halo effect can also impact people's impressions. If they perceive certain good qualities about you (like that you are nice, professional, and quick-witted), they are more likely to attribute other good qualities to you as well.

First Impressions Affect Future Interactions

Such impressions can have a significant impact in many ways. In the workplace, first impressions can play a role in employment opportunities, leadership roles, collaborations with others, and future advancement. 

In social situations, how well others think of you based on their first assessment might determine the rapport they feel and whether they end up trusting or liking you.

Such impressions can also impact your love life. You might express interest in a potential partner, only to be rebuffed if you leave a poor first impression. 

The ability to accurately recognize other people's emotions is essential for effective social interaction, but some research suggests that poor first impressions can negatively affect the ability to read emotions based on facial expressions.

First Impressions Are Long-Lasting

As the famous saying goes, you never have a second chance to make a first impression, and, for better or worse, those first impressions tend to stick. This is because of a phenomenon known as the primacy effect . Essentially, people tend to have a better memory for the initial information they learned than they do for subsequent information that follows.

When a person thinks about you, those first impressions are more likely to spring to mind over other details they may have learned, all thanks to the primacy effect.

Researchers found that first impressions made based on briefly looking at a photograph of a stranger affected judgments when participants met the same stranger face-to-face a month later.

How to Overcome a Bad First Impression

First impressions are important, but everyone has an off day or makes mistakes in social situations. While it might be more of a challenge to change how you are perceived, there are things you can do to overcome a bad first impression.

If your first meeting was marred by some type of mistake, reach out and apologize . Showing that you are aware of your gaffe and willing to take steps to overcome it can help improve the impression the other person has of you.

Explain What Happened

You don’t want to make excuses, but it can be helpful to provide an honest explanation for why your first meeting went poorly. You might explain that you were nervous, that you weren’t feeling well, that you were distracted, or that you were feeling stressed about something unrelated. No matter the cause, an honest explanation may help the other person better empathize with your situation.

Suggest Another Meeting

If you won’t see them in another setting, ask if you can have another opportunity to let them get to see the real you. However, be willing to respect the other person’s request if they decline your offer.

For example, don't continue pursuing a potential romantic partner after they have told you they are not interested. Don't take it personally; instead, see it as a learning opportunity and try to apply those lessons when you meet someone new.

Let Them See the Real You

If you do get another opportunity to overcome a poor initial impression, make sure you are authentic and consistent in your future interactions. Let the other person see the “real you” in terms of context and situation.

If it’s a second date, let them see the qualities that make you a great romantic partner, such as warmth, kindness, humor, and attentiveness.

In a workplace setting, focus on showing your skills and professionalism. Demonstrating initiative, productivity, and good work habits are just a few ways to help overcome a poor first impression at work.

Poor first impressions happen for a variety of reasons, but there are things you can do to overcome them. Apologizing, offering an explanation, asking for another chance, and showing your best qualities can help others form a more accurate view of who you are and what you have to offer.

A Word From Verywell

Think of first impressions as a building block for relationships—they play a major part in setting the tone for future interactions. Making a good first impression is a great start, but there are also reasons why those initial interactions might be less-than-stellar. Stress, situational factors, and even the other person’s expectations can affect how they see you.

A poor first impression can sink your chances professionally, socially, and romantically, so it is worth it to examine how others react to you in these settings.

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Colonnello V, Russo PM, Mattarozzi K. First impression misleads emotion recognition . Front Psychol . 2019;10:527. doi:10.3389/fpsyg.2019.00527

Gunaydin G, Selcuk E, Zayas V. Impressions based on a portrait predict, 1-month later, impressions following a live interaction . Social Psychological and Personality Science . 2017;8(1):36-44.doi:10.1177/1948550616662123

By Kendra Cherry, MSEd Kendra Cherry, MS, is a psychosocial rehabilitation specialist, psychology educator, and author of the "Everything Psychology Book."

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15 Effective Strategies for Writing a Compelling Personal Statement

By Eric Eng

Writing a personal statement is an essential step in the college application process. By employing effective strategies, you can showcase your strengths, aspirations, and what makes you stand out. A compelling personal statement serves as your unique voice in a sea of candidates.

How? Consider the following tips:

1. Start with a captivating hook.

The opening lines of your personal statement are your first opportunity to make a lasting impression on the admissions committee. Think of it as the equivalent of a firm handshake or a confident introduction at an interview. A well-crafted hook can distinguish your application from hundreds of others.

For example, beginning with a vivid account of the moment you found your passion for environmental science during a volunteer project not only grabs attention but also sets a thematic tone for your statement.

To achieve this, start with a powerful or intriguing statement, a question, or a brief anecdote related to your field of interest. This should be something personally significant or a defining moment that sparked your interest in the subject you wish to pursue. Be creative but authentic. Your goal is to engage the reader from the very first sentence.

2. Showcase your authentic voice.

Your authentic voice is what makes your personal statement genuinely yours. Admissions officers are keen on identifying applicants who present a genuine reflection of themselves. Infusing your essay with your sense of humor, for instance, can make your statement memorable.

To showcase your authentic voice, write in a way that feels natural to you while maintaining a professional tone. Avoid overly formal language if it doesn’t reflect how you normally express yourself. Instead, use a style that feels comfortable and is reflective of your personality. This authenticity makes your essay more relatable and engaging to the reader.

3. Tell a compelling story.

Writing a compelling story within your personal statement is an effective strategy for illustrating your character, values, and aspirations. Consider narrating your journey of organizing community clean-up events; this can highlight your leadership skills and commitment to environmental advocacy. This storytelling approach makes your application stand out by showcasing your active engagement in your passions.

To tell your story, focus on a specific event, experience, or insight that has significantly shaped your personal or academic life. Structure your narrative to build towards a revelation or learning experience that highlights personal growth or a deepening of your intellectual interests.

The most impactful stories are those that allow your personal qualities and convictions to shine through.

4. Highlight your unique experiences.

The experiences that set you apart from other applicants are invaluable in painting a picture of who you are beyond grades and test scores. For instance, sharing your experience working in a family business during high school, illustrating how it fostered your interest in entrepreneurship and developed your work ethic, effectively highlights your uniqueness.

To highlight your unique experiences, focus on what you’ve learned from them and how they’ve shaped your perspective or skills. It’s not just about what you did, but also about how these experiences contribute to your personal narrative. Importantly, be specific about your role, your contributions, and the impact these experiences had on your personal and academic growth.

5. Focus on your passions and interests.

Colleges are looking for passionate individuals who will bring enthusiasm and energy to their campus. An applicant’s personal statement that vividly describes their passion for a particular subject area, such as a detailed account of their ongoing project in robotics, can significantly bolster their application by showing depth of interest and proactive engagement in their field.

To effectively focus on your passions and interests, delve into the specifics of what excites you about your chosen field or hobby. Discuss any projects, research, or reading you’ve undertaken on your own initiative. Illustrating your dedication and enthusiasm helps admissions officers envision you as a committed and vibrant part of their college community.

6. Address the specific prompt or question.

Adhering closely to the prompt or question provided by the college is another strategy for writing an effective and compelling personal statement. Meticulously addressing the prompt by relating each part of your essay back to how your experiences have prepared you for the challenges and opportunities of the college program demonstrates thoughtfulness and a clear direction in your application.

To address the specific prompt or question, first ensure you understand what is being asked. Then, organize your response to directly address each component of the prompt. Use your experiences and reflections to provide concrete examples that answer the question thoroughly.

7. Show self-awareness and reflection.

Self-awareness and the ability to reflect on your experiences are qualities that colleges value highly, as they indicate maturity and a capacity for growth. For example, discussing a failure or challenge you faced, such as struggling with a particular subject, and then outlining the steps you took to overcome this, demonstrates resilience and self-improvement.

To exhibit self-awareness and reflection in your personal statement, focus on how specific experiences have contributed to your personal or academic development. Discuss what you learned about yourself through these experiences and how they have shaped your future aspirations. Be honest and introspective, recognizing both strengths and areas for growth.

8. Demonstrate your skills and achievements.

Highlighting your skills and achievements gives the admissions committee a sense of your accomplishments and potential contributions to their campus. An effective approach is to integrate your achievements into your narrative, like detailing how leading a volunteer project honed your leadership and organizational skills, rather than simply listing accolades.

To demonstrate your skills and achievements, select examples that are most relevant to your college goals and the program you’re applying to. Describe the context and your involvement in detail, focusing on the impact of your actions and what they reveal about your character, work ethic, and capabilities.

In short, avoid boasting. Present your achievements as reflections of your commitment and drive.

9. Use concrete examples and anecdotes.

Citing concrete examples and anecdotes is an effective strategy for writing a vivid and compelling personal statement. It allows admissions officers to see the real person behind the application. For instance, rather than stating you have a strong work ethic, describe the time you balanced a part-time job with your studies to support a family project, illustrating your determination and responsibility.

Incorporate specific examples and anecdotes that highlight your qualities, skills, and experiences. Choose stories that are meaningful and demonstrate your values, such as teamwork, perseverance, or creativity. These real-life examples provide a solid foundation for your claims, making your personal statement more compelling and persuasive.

10. Connect your experiences to your future goals.

Linking your past experiences to your future ambitions demonstrates forward-thinking and a clear vision for your college journey and beyond. An applicant who articulates how their volunteer work with a local environmental group inspired them to pursue a degree in environmental science, with the goal of developing sustainable solutions, effectively bridges their past actions with their future aspirations.

To connect your experiences to your future goals, first identify the key experiences that have shaped your interests and aspirations. Then, articulate how these experiences have prepared you for the challenges you anticipate in college and your career. Explain how the program you are applying to fits into your long-term plans, showing that you have a direction and are committed to achieving your goals.

11. Maintain a clear and concise structure.

A well-organized personal statement makes your narrative accessible and engaging, guiding the reader through your experiences, reflections, and aspirations with ease. For instance, structuring your essay with a clear introduction, body paragraphs that each focus on a specific theme or experience, and a cohesive conclusion, ensures that your narrative flows logically and coherently.

To maintain a clear and concise structure, plan your personal statement before writing. Outline the main points you want to cover and decide on the best order to present them. Each paragraph should serve a clear purpose and lead smoothly to the next. Avoid tangents and overly complex sentences that could distract or confuse the reader, focusing instead on delivering your message with clarity and precision.

12. Edit and revise meticulously.

Editing and revising are critical strategies in the writing process, for they ensure your personal statement is polished and error-free. A personal statement with typos, grammatical errors, or awkward phrasing can detract from the overall impression it makes. Meticulous editing can make your personal statement more effective and compelling.

To edit and revise, start by reviewing your statement for any spelling or grammatical errors. Then, read it aloud to catch awkward phrasings or inconsistencies in flow. Seek feedback from teachers, mentors, or peers, as fresh eyes can catch errors you might have missed and provide valuable perspectives on the clarity and impact of your narrative.

Ultimately, be open to constructive criticism and willing to make changes to strengthen your statement. This iterative process is crucial for refining your message and ensuring it accurately reflects your voice and aspirations.

13. Seek feedback from others.

Getting feedback from others is invaluable for refining your personal statement. It offers perspectives on how your narrative is received, highlights areas for improvement, and confirms the clarity of your message.

To effectively seek feedback, choose individuals who know you well and others who may not be as familiar with your story, such as teachers or mentors, to provide a balanced view. Ask specific questions about how your personal statement comes across: Does it convey my passion? Is my narrative clear and engaging?

Use this feedback to make targeted improvements, ensuring your statement accurately and effectively communicates your strengths and aspirations.

14. Show enthusiasm and passion.

Expressing enthusiasm and passion in your personal statement can significantly enhance its impact. Admissions committees are drawn to candidates who demonstrate genuine excitement for their field of study and future career paths. For instance, a detailed description of your science fair project and its influence on your decision to pursue biomedical engineering can vividly showcase your passion for the subject.

To convey enthusiasm and passion, use vivid and energetic language when describing your interests and experiences. Reflect on why these areas excite you and how they align with your personal and academic goals. Your enthusiasm will naturally shine through when you discuss something you truly love and are committed to pursuing further in your college career.

15. Tailor your personal statement to the institution or program.

Customizing your personal statement to reflect your fit with the specific institution or program you’re applying to shows that you’ve done your research and are genuinely interested in what they offer. This is one of the most effective strategies for writing a compelling personal statement.

For example, mentioning specific faculty members you wish to work with or unique aspects of the program that align with your career goals demonstrates a proactive and thoughtful approach to your application.

To tailor your statement, research the college or program thoroughly. Identify specific courses, faculty, research opportunities , or community aspects that align with your interests and goals. Then, weave these details into your statement to illustrate how you see yourself contributing to and benefiting from the program.

Why is the personal statement important in college admissions?

The personal statement is a critical component of your college application, offering a unique opportunity to present your voice and personality to the admissions committee. Unlike standardized test scores and GPAs, which provide a quantitative measure of academic achievement, the personal statement allows you to share your personal journey, challenges, successes, and aspirations.

In essence, it serves as a narrative that ties together the various elements of your application into a cohesive story. It helps admissions officers understand who you are beyond the numbers, showcasing your writing skills, self-awareness, and potential to contribute to the college community.

What are the common mistakes to avoid in my personal statement?

One of the most common pitfalls in writing a personal statement is failing to make it personal enough. Many applicants fall into the trap of reiterating their resume or writing what they think admissions officers want to hear, resulting in a statement that lacks authenticity and personal insight.

Another frequent mistake is overlooking the importance of storytelling and structure, leading to a personal statement that feels disjointed or aimless. Successful personal statements are those that not only provide a glimpse into the applicant’s life but also engage the reader through a well-organized narrative that clearly communicates the applicant’s aspirations and how the college fits into their future plans.

How can my cultural and personal identity enhance my personal statement?

Incorporating your cultural and personal identity into your personal statement is an effective writing strategy that can significantly enrich your narrative, making it compelling. This approach allows you to showcase how your unique background has shaped your perspectives, values, and goals. It provides a deeper understanding of your character and the diverse experiences you bring to the college community.

To effectively highlight your cultural and personal identity, focus on specific experiences, traditions, or challenges that have played a pivotal role in your development. Discuss how these elements have influenced your academic interests, career aspirations, or personal growth. This not only adds depth to your application but also demonstrates your ability to contribute to the campus’s cultural diversity and intellectual life.

How do I balance professionalism with personality in my personal statement?

Finding the right balance between professionalism and personality is key to crafting a compelling personal statement. While it’s important to maintain a professional tone to demonstrate your readiness for college-level work, infusing your statement with your unique voice and personality makes it genuinely engaging. This balance shows admissions committees that you are a well-rounded candidate who can communicate effectively while staying true to yourself.

To achieve this balance, write in a tone that is reflective of your natural speaking style, but be mindful of grammar, syntax, and appropriateness. Use anecdotes and examples that highlight your personality traits, such as humor, empathy, or curiosity, without overshadowing the overall professionalism of your statement. This approach ensures that your personal statement is both polished and personal, offering a true reflection of who you are.

How does feedback help me revise my personal statement?

Using feedback effectively is crucial in refining your personal statement. It offers insights into how your personal story is perceived by others and highlights areas that may need clarification, expansion, or reduction. Seek feedback from a variety of sources, including teachers, mentors, family members, and peers, to gain diverse perspectives on your writing.

When revising your personal statement based on feedback, prioritize comments that align with your goal of presenting a clear, cohesive, and compelling narrative. Consider each piece of feedback carefully, but also stay true to your voice and the core message you want to convey. This process of revision and refinement is essential for crafting a statement that truly resonates with admissions committees.

Crafting a compelling personal statement requires effective strategies such as introspection, creativity, and a willingness to share your unique story. Write a personal statement that not only showcases your achievements and aspirations but also leaves a lasting impression on college admissions officers. Remember, your personal statement is your opportunity to shine. Make it count.

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13 Habits to Make An Amazing First Impression (Every Time)

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On Develop Good Habits we’ve covered a number of topics when it comes to forming positive habits , but we rarely talk about how your routines can improve your social life.  That’s why today I’ve invited Charlie Houpert of Charisma On Command to provide a list of habits that can help make a positive first impression when meeting people.  Let’s get to it…

Ever wonder why some people just seem to be universally adored?

You know the type. They walk into a party and are an instant hit. They sit down for an interview and become the immediate front runner for the job. Even the testy in-laws love them after the first dinner together. They seem blessed with an innate charm and charisma.

The good news for the rest of us who weren’t born social geniuses is that ANYONE can learn to consistently make an amazing impression. You don’t need to be born with some X factor.

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The Importance of First Impressions

But why do first impressions matter so much?

Simply put, they lay the foundation for how others perceive us and, in turn, how we perceive them. They can impact our personal and professional relationships, shape our opportunities, and even affect our self-esteem .

So, it's not just about making a good impression for the sake of it; it's about seizing the power of first impressions to navigate life's myriad situations with confidence and success.

In essence, by recognizing their importance and striving to make positive first impressions, you unlock the keys to building lasting connections, fostering trust , and opening doors to a world of opportunities.

In this post, we'll discuss insights and tips on building good habits that will help you create an amazing first impression every time.

From body language and communication skills to genuine authenticity and personal grooming, these habits aren't just about surface-level charm; they're about building meaningful connections and leaving a positive mark wherever you go.

Just like with any good thing, learning how to make a good first impression takes practice. The video below explores 5 simple daily habits that will help you make consistent, constant improvements throughout your life.

Habit #1: Smile any time you walk into a room or begin a conversation .

First impressions are formed in 7 seconds. That’s before you have a chance to say much of anything. So what are people forming those impressions from?

Your attitude. Which is primarily conveyed by your smile (or lack thereof).

Keep in mind, smiling doesn’t mean just baring your teeth. The genuine Duchene smile engages the muscles around the eye. This is the smile you want to mark your first impression.

Smiling also has the added benefit of releasing dopamine into your system. So you will actually feel happier and free you from stress . That virtuous cycle can make all the difference in making an impression.

Habit #2: Open your body language.

In unfamiliar situations, you might have a tendency to close off. To cross your arms, lower your chin, and make yourself smaller.

You might also feel inclined to grab a drink at a bar or networking event so that you can wield it like a shield, holding it high at your chest even when you aren’t drinking. This closed body language sends the message loud and clear: not available for interaction. This will always make a bad first impression.

Instead, open up. Uncross your arms, lift your chin, and place your feet a bit wider than your shoulders. The physical act of opening your body will actually make you feel more social, much like smiling will make you feel happier. Other people will also pick up on those cues and feel drawn to you.

Habit #3: Don’t wait to be introduced .

We’ve all been there. You’re walking down the street or out at an event and the person you’re with bumps into some friends. Then you stand there awkwardly while they catch up for three minutes.

No more! When you’re thrown into close quarters with other people or have a friend in common or are just at the same party, take the initiative to introduce yourself. You immediately make everyone feel more comfortable since you’re all part of the conversation.

Habit #4: Use people’s names .

As Dale Carnegie said, “a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.” Remember people’s names and they’ll immediately like you.

A great way to remember names AND generate goodwill is by make a habit of quickly saying someone’s name back to them.

So when you find out a guy is named John you can follow up with, “So what brings you here today, John?” Or “Nice to meet you John!” Saying someone’s name out a loud a few times really makes it stick.

Habit #5: Develop a fascinating way to answer, “Where are you from?”

You’re going to be asked, “Where are you from?” about ten million times over the course of your life. Think it might be a good idea to have an interesting response?

No, I don’t mean to invent some story about how you were born in Antarctica and raised in Monaco. I mean to share something about yourself. Let them know something that evokes emotion. Let them know about your values. That’s what people care about anyway

So instead of answering “Philadelphia,” you might give them a quick insight into why you currently live where you do.

So you’d say: “I am from Philadelphia, but I actually moved out here to Cali because I love the laid back style of life. There is nothing I love more than spending a beautiful day outside the beach with friends.”

Habit #6: Develop a fascinating way to answer, “What do you do?”

The same principle applies to “What do you do?” Most people don’t know what a “private equity analyst” or a “corporate trainer” is.

Even if you took 5 minutes explained your job, they’d probably remain confused because chances are they don't work in your industry. And who wants to talk about work that long anyway?

Instead of just answering with your job title, get in the habit of sharing WHY you chose your job or what you like about it. So you might say, “I’m a private equity analyst.

I like to geek out over numbers and it is really crazy to see how the quantitative work I do on a spreadsheet winds up impacting people’s lives.” An answer like that gives the other person something to relate to instead of just allowing a conversation to stall.

Habit #7: Ask better questions than “Where are you from?” or “What do you do?”

When you ask, “Where are you from?” or “What do you do?” you get a generic answer. “Calgary.” “Stockbroker.” If you’ve never been to Calgary and you don’t know any stockbrokers the conversation dies. Right then and there.

Instead, dig deeper. Not just into the logistical details. Ask people if they like their jobs or hometowns. Find out what fires them up.

We all come from different places and on the surface, our jobs are often completely unrelated to one another’s.

But when you get into underlying motivations of why we move cities and why we pick professions, we’re all remarkably similar. This is the level of conversation where you can actually relate and connect with people.

Habit #8: Look people in the eye while YOU speak .

Most people find it easy to look at others in the eye when listening. But when it comes to their turn to speak, their eyes go wandering. They look at the floor, the ceiling, anywhere but into the eyes of the person who is listening.

Bill Clinton was renowned for his laser eye contact when he spoke. He would look his listener in the eye. That person would know they had his full attention . They often described feeling like, “they were the only person in the room.” Look people in the eye while you speak and you’ll captivate them.

Habit #9: Don’t scan the room or check your phone while listening .

No one likes feeling like you’d rather be somewhere else when you're with them. Yet that is exactly how you make other people feel when you scan a room or check your cell phone while someone is speaking to you.

If you need to get a look around the room, do so in between conversations. At the very least, let the person you’re speaking to know you’re looking for someone.

Put your cell phone on silent whenever you want to make a good impression. You won’t be tempted to answer random texts or calls. After all, how often is it that something can’t wait 10 minutes?

Habit #10: Speak louder .

Oftentimes when we get around people we’d like to impress, we shrink. In order to avoid making a bad impression, we try to make no impression at all. And the first casualty is the volume of our voice.

Speak like you’re meant to be heard, especially when you’re nervous. Using a strong voice will jolt you out of your nerves and will demonstrate confidence to the people around you. It’s okay to be in over your head. It’s not okay to use that as an excuse for undercutting everything you say by whispering.

Habit #11: Keep your inflection down when making statements .

In the same situations where you might be tempted to whisper, you’re also likely to constantly speak like you're asking a question. You’ll say the last word of every sentence in a higher pitch. Almost like you’re asking permission for the right to speak.

While an upward inflection is appropriate for questions, it makes all of your statements sound halfhearted. Like you don’t even believe in them. Take special care to speak in a way that communicates conviction (i.e., downward or neutral inflection at the end of your sentences).

Habit #12: Touch people .

Research shows it only takes 1/40th of a second of physical contact for people to feel a bond with one another. So shake hands instead of doing an awkward wave to say hello.

Touch people on the forearm or shoulder when making a point. Clap the back of their shoulder when saying goodbye. You don’t need to be overbearing. With just a few small points of contact, people will take an immediate liking to you.

Habit #13: Bring fun .

Not every conversation needs to have the formality of an interview. Get in the habit of answering every couple of questions in jest. When someone asks who you know at the party, joke that you heard music and just decided to walk in off the street.

Being the first in a conversation to crack a joke makes you the de facto leader. You’ve shown that you don’t always need to appear stuffy and people will adore you for it.

Final Thoughts on First Impressions

Remember, making an amazing first impression isn't about pretending to be someone you're not. It's about showcasing the best version of yourself, making others feel valued and respected, and opening doors to meaningful connections and opportunities.

Be yourself, and remember the power of these habits. Whether you're meeting new friends, making important business connections, or just engaging with the world around you, let your amazing first impression be a reflection of your authentic self.

Now, if you're looking to improve your communication skills furthers, these articles might help:

• 5 Simple Habits to Build Your Social Skills
• 9 Ways to Improve Your Conversation Skills
• 8 Simple Ways to Be a Good Listener in Conversations

Finally, if you want to take your goal-setting efforts to the next level, check out this FREE printable worksheet and a step-by-step process that will help you set effective SMART goals .

17 thoughts on “13 Habits to Make An Amazing First Impression (Every Time)”

Hi Charlie! : )

This post is packed with some very valid tips. I’d never thought of spicing up the question of ‘Where are you from.’

I most especially related to #11. I have a habit of getting intimidated mid – conversation and losing confidence so when I’m presenting a view or even cold hard facts, I definitely end it in that ‘question’ tone instead of a more confident, definite tone. If I sense a challenging or disagreeing demeanor in facial expression, body shifting or body language…that’s it…my confidence is gone. Do you have any specific tips to help with this?

I have a really BIG interview coming up and these tips came just in time.

Thanks so much.

Glad you found these helpful!

Have you seen Amy Cuddy’s Ted Talk on body language?

The quick summary is this:

Your feelings are dictated by how you use your body (similar to my second point). So when you feel nervous, it is often because you have assumed nervous body language. Trying to take up less space, crossing arms and legs, chin tilted downward. This defensive posture actually makes you feel more nervous.

Conversely, adopting the opposite body language will make you feel more confident. So in those moments where you start feeling nervous in an interview, make sure to keep your palms, inner elbows, and chest exposed. This sends signals to your brain saying: “Everything must be okay.”

You can take advantage of this beforehand, by focusing on how you use your body as you walk into the building and wait your turn. Maintain that open body language and smile big at everyone you meet. Speak more loudly than you normally would as you greet people. Gesticulate more than you normally might. All of these send signals to your brain that everything is okay. You can’t go into panic mode as long as you have your body in relaxed, comfortable mode.

Hope that helps! Best of luck on the interview!

Thanks so much Charlie.

Awesome tips for keeping my body language open. I totally ‘get’ the subconscious signal thing and I’ve never paid attention to it while I’m in the middle of a conversation. It’s a Skype interview so maybe I can tape my hands to the table palm side up? lol ; ) (not literally)

I’ll listen to that Ted talk this evening.

My nerves are already much better for this interview. Thank you again.

It’s amazing how many people don’t do #1!

I wish I had bracelets or something that just say SMILE or BE HAPPY to give out to frowny folks

I’ve read two of your posts in a row, Charlie. Are you becoming the next Danny Iny?

Anyway, I definitely have problem when trying to ask and answer questions from others. I guess, looking at your advice, it’s better to elaborate more when people ask me questions and try to ask non-trite questions about them. This reminded me of a book I once read – The Art of Small Talk by Debra Fine. It’s a good read and there’s a lot of focus on elaboration and bearing the burden of starting conversations.

Thanks for the post, Charlie.

Haha, had to Google Danny Iny. Seems like a good dude 🙂

I totally agree with “bearing the burden.” So many people are looking to connect, but just don’t know how. When you can lead a conversation down an interesting route, everyone benefits.

One thing I would add is that when you are offering more elaborate answers to people, focus on 2 things 1) Revealing your values, and 2) Leaving open loops.

I’m sure you know the guy that talks and talks and talks and no one cares. People just hope he’ll take a breath. It’s usually because he is talking without purpose. He’s not revealing anything interesting about himself, just stating facts or telling stories without an emotional payoff. Focus instead on telling people what’s important to you, what you love (and ask the same questions of them).

Leaving open loops just means “don’t ramble.” Drop interesting tidbits without going all the way into the details of your answer. Then leave space for them to ask for more information. So something like, “Yeah, I didn’t like what I was doing before, but in my new job, I’m so happy and fulfilled. I get to interact with amazing people every day.” That will probably make them ask:, “What do you do?” which allows you to elaborate. If they don’t ask, at least you haven’t talked their ear off.

I really enjoyed your points and when I look at your list I think ‘ it all makes perfect sense so why don’t I always do it’ and the answer that came to mind was ‘I need to practice more’. So that is what I intend to do and thanks for the reminder. I know from experience that everything you have said really does work and I loved the slideshare – it really helps to push the message home. Thanks

Totally right about the practice. One thing you’ll know from this blog is that you’ll need a trigger, something to remind you to pay attention to this stuff. A few suggestions for potential triggers

1) Any time you walk through a door 2) Any time you shake someones hand 3) Any time you find yourself at a public event and are inclined to go immediately to the bar or bathroom in order to avoid conversation

All those instances are great times to turn this on 🙂

That was neat, real neat. I agree wholeheartedly. My husband was raised in the First Nation culture and so usually looks down to the floor when speaking to someone, because he was brought up to believe it was disrespectful to look someone in the eye.

The slide share illustrations aptly portrayed the points made in the article.

Maybe you’re another Dale Carnegie, Charlie. 🙂

Haha, that may be the most flattering comparison anyone has ever included me in, Clara! I relish the thought – How to Win Friends absolutely changed my life. I’d be thrilled to make a small fraction of the impact Dale has over the years

I too had to train myself to look people in the eye. Not because I was raised that way, but because I was a very shy kid and it became habit. It’s really uncomfortable at first, but has been one of the biggest improvements I’ve made in my ability to connect with people

It’s a great post Charlie. I’ve just finished a book about talking to strangers and I find all your points valid.

He, he, people often get confused when I look them straight in the eyes, laser-focused style. They are not used to it.

I am typically not your shy type, but I seem to feel embarrassed introducing myself…I definitely need to work on that. Gret tips!

Excellent post, Charlie, and I mean one that puts a smile on my face. I love using people’s name on a regular basis. In fact, one of my goals for 2014 is to mention someone by their name every day – be it a barista who wears a name badge or someone I just met. I think remembering names is very important and it sets you apart as a person.

I’m still working on habit #9 and asking a better question than “where are you from?” made me think. Thanks for the great post, Charlie. 🙂

#7 is definitely my favorite. I like to keep the other person at the focus of the conversation, and most of that comes down to asking the right questions. These habits remind of some tips from Leil Lowndes’ book, “How to Talk to Anyone”.

I don’t have a website yet but I just wanted to say that this has been fun although I was in a store last week and was enjoying a conversation with my Goddaughter along with the cashier having a positive conversation (we were all smiling and laughing) and across the room was a, I’m going to guess was a manager? talking to two other employees, I looked up and saw that he was frowning at me, so I gave him a big smile and the more I smiled the angrier he seemed to become, so much so that my Gd; said “Don’t smile at him I think he might come over here and punch you” I guess friendliness doesn’t always work.

Hi, . Read your article, however your article has a very fundamental fault that I guess you also missed. And that is “Never try to impress anyone.”. It’s actually a weakness because we are not comfortable with who we are and trying to become like others. It’s good to improve myself because I want to do it for myself. Not to fit in and become likeable. That itself will lead to even more complex.

But buddy, the fact is that why do you want to create an impact on others. Just be yourself and confident of who you are. No need to impress others. That itself is defeating. Have the guts to be proud of who you are..

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How to Write a Personal Statement (with Tips and Examples)

By Hannah Yang

Table of Contents

What is a personal statement, 6 tips on how to write a personal statement, personal statement examples (for college and university), faqs about writing personal statements, conclusion on how to write a personal statement.

How do you tell someone who you are in just a few hundred words?

It’s certainly no easy task, but it’s one almost every college applicant must do. The personal statement is a crucial part of any college or university application.

So, how do you write a compelling personal statement?

In this article, we’ll give you all the tools, tips, and examples you need to write an effective personal statement.

A personal statement is a short essay that reveals something important about who you are. It can talk about your background, your interests, your values, your goals in life, or all of the above.

Personal statements are required by many college admission offices and scholarship selection committees. They’re a key part of your application, alongside your academic transcript, standardized test scores, and extracurricular activities.

The reason application committees ask you to write a personal statement is so they can get to know who you are. 

Some personal statements have specific prompts, such as “Discuss a period of personal growth in your life” or “Tell us about a challenge or failure you’ve faced.” Others are more open-ended with prompts that essentially boil down to “Tell us about yourself.”

No matter what the prompt is, your goal is the same: to make yourself stand out to the selection committee as a strong candidate for their program.

Here are some things a personal statement can be:

It can be funny. If you have a great sense of humor, your personal statement is a great place to let that shine.  

It can be vulnerable. Don’t be afraid to open up about hardships in your life or failures you’ve experienced. Showing vulnerability can make you sound more like a real person rather than just a collection of application materials.  

It can be creative. Candidates have got into top schools with personal statements that take the form of “a day in the life” descriptions, third-person short stories, and even cooking recipes.

Now we’ve talked about what a personal statement is, let’s quickly look at what a personal statement isn’t:

It isn’t a formal academic paper. You should write the personal statement in your natural voice, using first-person pronouns like “I” and “me,” not in the formal, objective language you would use to write an academic paper.

It isn’t a five-paragraph essay. You should use as many paragraphs as you need to tell your story instead of sticking to the essay structure you learned in school.

It isn’t a resumé. You should try to describe yourself by telling a clear and cohesive story rather than providing a jumbled list of all of your accomplishments and ambitions.

Here are our top six tips for writing a strong personal statement.

Tip 1: Do Some Serious Self-Reflection

The hardest part of writing a personal statement isn’t the actual process of writing it.

Before you start typing, you have to figure out what to write about. And that means taking some time to reflect on who you are and what’s important in your life.

Here are some useful questions you can use to start your self-reflection. You can either answer these on your own by writing down your answers, or you can ask a trusted friend to listen as you talk about them together.

What were the key moments that shaped your life? (e.g. an important friendship, a travel experience, an illness or injury)

What are you proud of? (e.g. you’re a good listener, you always keep your promises, you’re a talented musician)

How do you choose to spend your time? (e.g. reading, practicing soccer, spending time with your friends)

What inspires you? (e.g. your grandmother, a celebrity, your favorite song)

Doing this self-reflection is crucial for figuring out the perfect topics and anecdotes you can use to describe who you are.

Tip 2: Try to Avoid Cliché Topics

College application committees read thousands of personal statements a year. That means there are some personal statement topics they see over and over again.

Here are a few examples of common personal statement topics that have become cliché:

Winning a tournament or sports game

Volunteering in a foreign country

Moving to a new home

Becoming an older sibling

Being an immigrant or having immigrant parents

If you want to make a strong impression in the application process, you need to make your personal statement stand out from the crowd.

But if your chosen personal statement topic falls into one of these categories, that doesn’t necessarily mean you shouldn’t use it. Just make sure to put a unique spin on it so it still delivers something the committee hasn’t seen before.

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Tip 3: Show, Don’t Tell

One common mistake you might make in your personal statement is to simply tell the reader what you want them to know about you, such as by stating “I have a fear of public speaking” or “I love to cook.”

Instead of simply stating these facts, you should show the committee what you’re talking about through a story or scene, which will make your essay much more immersive and memorable.

For example, let’s say you want the committee to know you overcame your fear of public speaking. Instead of writing “I overcame my fear of public speaking,” show them what it was like to be onstage in front of a microphone. Did your palms get clammy? Did you feel light-headed? Did you forget your words?

Or let’s say you want the committee to know you love to cook. Instead of writing “I love to cook,” show them why you love to cook. What’s your favorite dish to cook? What does the air smell like when you’re cooking it? What kitchen appliances do you use to make it?

Tip 4: Connect the Story to Why You’re Applying

Don’t forget that the purpose of your personal statement isn’t simply to tell the admissions committee who you are. That’s an important part of it, of course, but your ultimate goal is to convince them to choose you as a candidate.

That means it’s important to tie your personal story to your reasons for applying to this specific school or scholarship. Finish your essay with a strong thesis.

For example, if your story is about overcoming your fear of public speaking, you might connect that story to your ambition of becoming a politician. You can then tie that to your application by saying, “I want to apply to this school because of its fantastic politics program, which will give me a perfect opportunity to use my voice.”

Tip 5: Write in Your Own Voice

The personal statement isn’t supposed to be written in a formal tone. That’s why they’re called “personal” statements because you have to shape it to fit your own voice and style.

Don’t use complicated or overwrought language. You don’t need to fill your essay with semicolons and big words, unless that’s how you sound in real life.

One way to write in your own voice is by speaking your personal statement out loud. If it doesn’t feel natural, it may need changing. 

Tip 6: Edit, Edit, Edit!

It’s important to revise your personal statement multiple times in order to make sure it’s as close to perfect as possible.

A single typo won’t kill your application, but if your personal statement contains multiple spelling errors or egregious grammar mistakes, you won’t be putting your best foot forward.

ProWritingAid can help you make sure your personal statement is as clean as possible. In addition to catching your grammar errors, typos, and punctuation mistakes, it will also help you improve weaknesses in your writing, such as passive voice, unnecessary repetition, and more.

Let’s look at some of the best personal statements that have worked for successful candidates in the real world. 

Harvard Personal Statement Example

Love. For a word describing such a powerful emotion, it is always in the air. The word “love” has become so pervasive in everyday conversation that it hardly retains its roots in blazing passion and deep adoration. In fact, the word is thrown about so much that it becomes difficult to believe society isn’t just one huge, smitten party, with everyone holding hands and singing “Kumbaya.” In films, it’s the teenage boy’s grudging response to a doting mother. At school, it’s a habitual farewell between friends. But in my Chinese home, it’s never uttered. Watching my grandmother lie unconscious on the hospital bed, waiting for her body to shut down, was excruciatingly painful. Her final quavering breaths formed a discordant rhythm with the steady beep of hospital equipment and the unsympathetic tapping hands of the clock. That evening, I whispered—into unhearing ears—the first, and only, “I love you” I ever said to her, my rankling guilt haunting me relentlessly for weeks after her passing. My warm confession seemed anticlimactic, met with only the coldness of my surroundings—the blank room, impassive doctors, and empty silence. I struggled to understand why the “love” that so easily rolled off my tongue when bantering with friends dissipated from my vocabulary when I spoke to my family. Do Chinese people simply love less than Americans do?

This is an excerpt from a personal statement that got the applicant admitted to Harvard University. The applicant discusses her background as a Chinese-American by musing on the word “love” and what that means within her family.

The writer uses vulnerable details about her relationship with her grandmother to give the reader an understanding of where she comes from and how her family has shaped her.  

You can read the full personal statement on the Harvard Crimson website.

Tufts Personal Statement Example

My first dream job was to be a pickle truck driver. I saw it in my favorite book, Richard Scarry’s “Cars and Trucks and Things That Go,” and for some reason, I was absolutely obsessed with the idea of driving a giant pickle. Much to the discontent of my younger sister, I insisted that my parents read us that book as many nights as possible so we could find goldbug, a small little golden bug, on every page. I would imagine the wonderful life I would have: being a pig driving a giant pickle truck across the country, chasing and finding goldbug. I then moved on to wanting to be a Lego Master. Then an architect. Then a surgeon. Then I discovered a real goldbug: gold nanoparticles that can reprogram macrophages to assist in killing tumors, produce clear images of them without sacrificing the subject, and heat them to obliteration. Suddenly the destination of my pickle was clear. I quickly became enveloped by the world of nanomedicine; I scoured articles about liposomes, polymeric micelles, dendrimers, targeting ligands, and self-assembling nanoparticles, all conquering cancer in some exotic way. Completely absorbed, I set out to find a mentor to dive even deeper into these topics. After several rejections, I was immensely grateful to receive an invitation to work alongside Dr. Sangeeta Ray at Johns Hopkins.

This is the beginning of a personal statement by Renner Kwittken, who was admitted into Tufts University as a pre-medical student.

Renner uses a humorous anecdote about being a pickle truck driver to describe his love for nanomedicine and how he got involved in his field. You can feel his passion for medicine throughout his personal statement.

You can find Renner’s full essay on the Tufts Admissions page.

Law School Personal Statement Essay Example

For most people, the slap on the face that turns their life around is figurative. Mine was literal. Actually, it was a punch delivered by a drill sergeant at Fort Dix, New Jersey, while I was in basic training. That day’s activity, just a few weeks into the program, included instruction in “low-crawling,” a sensible method of moving from one place to another on a battlefield. I felt rather clever for having discovered that, by looking right rather than down, I eliminated my helmet’s unfortunate tendency to dig into the ground and slow my progress. I could thus advance more easily, but I also exposed my unprotected face to hostile fire. Drill sergeants are typically very good at detecting this type of laziness, and mine was an excellent drill sergeant. So, after his repeated suggestions that I correct my performance went unheeded, he drove home his point with a fist to my face. We were both stunned. This was, after all, the New Army, and striking a trainee was a career-ending move for a drill sergeant, as we were both aware. I could have reported him; arguably, I should have. I didn’t. It didn’t seem right for this good sergeant, who had not slept for almost four days, to lose his career for losing his temper with my laziness. Choosing not to report him was the first decision I remember making that made me proud.

These are the first three paragraphs of an anonymous personal statement by a Wheaton College graduate, who used this personal statement to get into a top-25 law school.

This statement describes a time the applicant faced a challenging decision while in the army. He ended up making a decision he was proud of, and as a result, the personal statement gives us a sense of his character.

You can find the full essay on the Wheaton Academics website.

Here are some common questions about how to write a personal statement.

How Long Should a Personal Statement Be?

The length of your personal statement depends on the specific program you’re applying to. The application guidelines usually specify a maximum word count or an ideal word count.  

Most personal statements are between 500–800 words. That’s a good general range to aim for if you don’t have more specific guidelines.  

Should Personal Statements Be Different for Scholarships?

Many scholarship applications will ask for personal statements with similar prompts to those of college applications.

However, the purpose of a personal statement you’d write for a scholarship application is different from the purpose of one you’d write for a college application.

For a scholarship application, your goal is to showcase why you deserve the scholarship. To do that, you need to understand the mission of the organization offering that scholarship.

For example, some scholarships are meant to help first-generation college students get their degree, while others are meant to help women break into STEM.

Consider the following questions:

Why is this organization offering scholarships?

What would their ideal scholarship candidate look like?

How do your experiences and goals overlap with those of their ideal scholarship candidate?

You can use the same personal anecdotes you’d use for any other personal statement, but you’ll have a better chance of winning the scholarship if you tailor your essay to match their specific mission.

How to Start a Personal Statement

You should start your personal statement with a “hook” that pulls the reader in. The sooner you catch the reader’s attention, the more likely they’ll want to read the entire essay.

Here are some examples of hooks you can use:

A story (e.g. When the spotlight hit my face, I tried to remind myself to breathe. )

A setting description (e.g. My bedroom floor is covered with dirty laundry, candy wrappers, and crumpled sheet music. )

A funny anecdote (e.g. When I was a little kid, my friends nicknamed me Mowgli because of my haircut. )

A surprising fact (e.g. I've lived in 37 countries .)

There you have it—our complete guide to writing a personal statement that will make you stand out to the application committee.

Here’s a quick recap: 

A personal statement is a short essay that shows an application committee who you are

Start with a strong hook that pulls the reader in

Tell a story to engage the reader 

Write in your own voice, not in a formal tone

Good luck, and happy writing!

Hannah Yang

Hannah is a speculative fiction writer who loves all things strange and surreal. She holds a BA from Yale University and lives in Colorado. When she’s not busy writing, you can find her painting watercolors, playing her ukulele, or hiking in the Rockies. Follow her work on hannahyang.com or on Twitter at @hannahxyang.

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Essay Examples 20 Personal Statement Examples That Stand Out + Why They Work

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• What makes a successful Personal Statement
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This guide will help you get started writing an engaging Personal Statement essay. Or if you already have one, how to make it even better.

What is a Personal Statement Essay?

A personal statement, also called a statement of purpose (SOP) or personal essay, is a piece of creative, personal writing.

The purpose of your personal statement is to express yourself and your ideas. Personal statements usually aren't piece of formal writing, but still should be thoughtful and planned out.

Many applications for colleges, graduate schools, and scholarships require you to write a personal statement.

How to Write a Personal Statement Essay

While there are no rules or guidelines for writing a personal statement, the best ones often have these in common:

Have Strong Ideas:

Having compelling and interesting ideas shows you are a strong thinker.

It isn't necessarily about having all the answers, but asking the right questions.

For personal statement essays, the quality of your ideas matters more than your writing level. Writing interestingly is more important than writing beautifully.

I’ve stopped tripping over my own feet, and it’s led to me not being afraid to connect and interact with patients and customers or present in front of large crowds. Life is just one long Carioca – you might stumble at first, but if you keep pushing, the right feet will find themselves in the right place. From an accepted essay to UNC at Chapel Hill →

Be Authentic

Writing authentic essays means writing from the heart.

The best personal statements tend to come naturally, because the writer is excited about the topic.

Choose an idea that makes you feel excited to write about and start writing.

As you begin drafting, ideas will naturally arise related to your original idea. Exploring these tangential ideas is what leads to even better reflections for your essay.

That's why it's so important to be genuinely passionate about your subject. You can't just have an interest "in the topic," but there has to be something deeper you're writing about that moves you.

Use Narratives and Story-Telling:

Humans are naturally drawn to stories.

And often the best insights and ideas come from real life experiences.

Telling a story, or many, is the basis for developing your analysis and ideas. Remember, all stories need conflict in order to work.

It can help to think about the different types of conflict.

• Character vs. Self
• Character vs. Character
• Character vs. Nature
• Character vs. Society

And so on...

Once you've written a meaningful story, getting insights is as simple as answering the question: What did your experiences teach you?

The sounds of my knife striking kale unnerves my cat asleep in the corner. He quickly runs over to examine the situation but becomes instantly uninterested when he sees green and smells bitterness. Unfortunately, my family has this same reaction every day of every week. From an accepted essay to University of Southern California →

Showcase Your Values and Identity:

The purpose of a personal statement is to tell about who you are.

Personal statements are your opportunity to showcase what your values are, and how you would contribute to the school, scholarship opportunity, etc.

Good writers are those who write authentically. Write about your unique ideas and ask interesting questions, even if you don't know the answers.

How Long Should a Personal Statement Be?

A typical personal statement can range in length from 500 to 650 words or more.

For applying to colleges, the Common Application essay personal statement has a word limit of 650 words.

For graduate school programs, the application essay will vary in length, but most schools require a personal statement essay of at least 500 words.

20 Personal Statement Essays That Worked

It can be difficult to understand what makes a great essay without seeing some for yourself.

Here's 20 of our favorite personal statement essays that we've chosen for being unique and high-quality.

There essays were all accepted into some of the most selective schools. And while it isn't the only factor in admissions that matters, having outstanding essays can help tip the scales in your favor.

Table of Contents

Prompt: Background, Identity, or Interest

• 1. Uncomfortable Truths
• 2. Romanian Heritage
• 3. Film and Theater
• 4. Person of the Woods
• 5. Beautiful Walks

Prompt: Lessons from Obstacles

• 6. My Father
• 7. Self-Determination
• 8. Game Design Music
• 9. Speech and Debate

Prompt: Questioned or Challenged a Belief

• 10. Finding Answers

Prompt: Accomplishment, Event, or Realization

• 11. Connecting with Others
• 12. Summer Confidence
• 13. First Impressions
• 14. Law Career
• 15. Growing Up Asian

Prompt: Engaging Topic, Idea, or Concept

• 16. Secrets of Riddles
• 17. Rubik's Cube
• 18. Narrative Diversity

Prompt: Any Topic of Your Choice

• 19. Search for Dreams
• 20. Recipe for Success

Personal Statement Example #1: Uncomfortable Truths

This is a personal statement that worked for Princeton . It is outstanding for many reasons, but most of all because of its ideas and the thoughtfulness put into organizing them.

Common App Prompt #1: Some students have a background, identity, interest, or talent that is so meaningful they believe their application would be incomplete without it. If this sounds like you, then please share your story. (250-650 words)

Why This Essay Works:

Having a unifying idea is key to successful personal statements. Find your deepest idea or realization and focus your essay around that.

Find a way to showcase your achievements while connecting to broader, more universal ideas.

Connecting your ending to your beginning is a powerful way to bring your essay full circle. A great conclusion expands on your ideas introduced earlier, while leaving some room for more to be said.

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Personal Statement Example #2: Film and Theater

This student's essay was accepted to USC , among other top schools. It's topic is seemingly simple—taking walks—but the author brilliantly shows how even in the mundane there can be meaningful reflections.

This essay has lots of moments where the author's character comes across vividly. By using conversational language and interjections like "I want to—no, need—to...", the author has a clear "voice" and you can easily imagine them as if they were speaking directly to you. This student also showcases self-awareness and a sense of humor, by using slightly self-deprecating phrases like "some chubby, nerdy girl" and by recognizing how the social approval of sitting with the "popular girls" was enthralling at the time. Self-awareness is a highly valuable trait to portray, because it shows that you're able to reflect on both your strengths and weaknesses, which is a skill needed to be able to grow and develop.

This author manages to tie in their activity of producing films and reference them specifically ("Cardboard Castles") by connecting them to their main point. Instead of listing their activities or referencing them out-of-the-blue, they show how these accomplishments are perfect examples of a greater message. In this case, that message is how meaningful it is to connect with others through storytelling. To write about your activities and achievements without seeming arbitrary or boastful, make them have a specific purpose in your essay: connect to a value, idea, or use them as examples to show something.

In the intro of this essay, there are some descriptions that seem fiction-like and are ultimately unimportant to the main idea. Sentences that describe Mrs. Brewer's appearance or phrases describing how their teacher stood up after talking to them ultimately don't contribute to the story. Although these provide "context," the only context that admissions are interested in is context and details which have a purpose. Avoid writing like fiction books, which describe all the characters and settings, and instead only describe exactly what is needed to "go somewhere" in your essay.

What They Might Improve:

This essay has a strong hook which captivates the reader by making them ask a question: "What are these lunch-time horror stories?" By sparking the reader's imagination early on, you can draw them into your writing and be more engaged. However, ultimately this is somewhat of a letdown because these intriguing "lunch-time horror stories" are never described. Although it may not be completely necessary for the main point, describing one example or hinting at it more closely would be satisfying for the reader and still connect to the main idea of storytelling. One idea is to replace the conclusion with a reference to these "lunch-time horror stories" more vividly, which would be a satisfying ending that also could connect to filmmaking and storytelling. In general, anticipate what the reader will be looking for, and either use that expectation to your advantage by subverting it, or give them what they want as a satisfying, meaningful conclusion.

Although this conclusion could work as is, it could be stronger by seeming less arbitrary and less "fancy for fancy sake." Often, a good strategy is to connect your conclusion to something earlier in your essay such as your introduction or specific wording that you used throughout. In this essay, it could work much better to end by revealing one of those "lunch-time horror stories" in a way that also emphasizes their main point: how storytelling is a powerful tool to connect people.

Personal Statement Example #3: Romanian Heritage

This personal statement worked for UMichigan , among many other top schools like MIT, Rice, UNC at Chapel Hill , University of Pittsburgh, UW Madison, and more.

This author is able to vividly bring you into their world using cultural references and descriptive writing. You can practically taste and smell Buni's kitchen through her words.

This essay starts off by posing a challenge, which is typical of essays. But rather than showing how they overcame this particular challenge of speaking Romanian without an accent, this reader shows how something unexpected—baking—came to satisfy what was missing all along. By the end, this creates a conclusion that is both surprising, connected to the beginning, and makes perfect sense once you've read it. In other words, the conclusion is inevitable, but also surprising in content.

This student uses Romanian words to help exemplify the culture and language. If you're writing about a culture, using foreign language words can be a compelling way of adding depth to your essay. By including specific terms like "muni" and "cornulete," it shows a depth of knowledge which cannot be faked. Always use specific, tangible language where possible, because it is "evidence" that you know what you're talking about.

This student exhibits strong self-awareness by noting characteristics about themself, even some which may not be the most glamorous ("can be overbearing at times, stubborn in the face of offered help"). Rather than telling the reader flat out about these personal attributes, they are able to discuss them by connecting to another person—their grandmother Buni. Using another person to showcase your own character (through comparison or contrast) is a literary "foil," which can be an effective way of showing your character without stating it outright, which generally is boring and less convincing.

This student doesn't focus on surface-level ideas like "how they got better at speaking Romanian." Instead, they reflect in a creative way by connecting the Romanian language to baking. Revealing unseen connections between topics is a great way to show that you're a thoughtful and clever thinker. Ultimately, having unique ideas that are specific to you is what will create a compelling essay, and this essay is a perfect example of what that could look like.

Personal Statement Example #4: Person of the Woods

This essay was accepted into Dartmouth College . It is a brilliant example of showing how any experience, even those which originally may have been unpleasant, can be the topic of meaningful reflection.

Using visuals, like descriptions of scenarios and environments, can help bring the reader into your world. However, make sure that all of your descriptions are relevant to your main point, or else they could be distracting. For example, in this essay it would be unnecessary to describe what they're wearing or the appearance of canoes, but it makes sense to describe the nature as it relates to the main topic.

People are not isolated units. Instead, everyone depends on and is defined by those around them. By showing how you relate and connect with other people, you can provide insights into your character. In this essay, the student does a great job of delving into their strong friendships, particularly what they've learned from their friends.

Admissions officers love to see self-growth. Showing how your perspective on something has changed (in this case, how they went from disliking to loving an activity) conveys a development of your character. Ask yourself: what preconceived notions did I have before, and how did they change? This student reflects in a humble way, by first emphasizing what they've learned from others, before offering up what they might have contributed themselves. Always try to have a tone of gratitude in your essays because it makes you more likeable and shows strong character.

Personal Statement Example #5: Beautiful Walks

Personal Statement Example #6: My Father's Death

This personal statement was admitted to Michigan in recent years. It is an outstanding example of how you can write about topics that are often cliché if done poorly, such as the death of a family member.

But unlike other essays, this one works because it has a unique take and genuine approach to the topic that makes it come off as heartfelt.

Common App Prompt #2: The lessons we take from obstacles we encounter can be fundamental to later success. Recount a time when you faced a challenge, setback, or failure. How did it affect you, and what did you learn from the experience? (250-650 words)

Writing about a tragedy like a loss of a parent is a tricky topic for college essays. Many students feel obligated to choose that topic if it applies to them, but it can be challenging to not come across as trying to garner sympathy ("sob story"). This student does a graceful job of focusing on positive elements from their father's legacy, particularly the inspiration they draw from him.

This student does a great job of connecting their educational and career aspirations to their background. Admissions officers want to understand why you're pursing what you are, and by explaining the origin of your interests, you can have compelling and genuine reasons why.

In this essay, the student writes from their hypothetical perspective as an infant. This doesn't quite work because they likely wouldn't remember these moments ("I have no conscious memories of him"), but still writes as though they do. By writing about things you haven't seen or experienced yourself, it can come across as "made up" or inauthentic.

Personal Statement Example #7: Self-Determination

Some of the best essay topics are dealing with challenges you've faced, because difficulties make it easier to reflect upon what you've learned. Admissions officers ultimately are looking for self-growth, and showing how you've handled personal challenges can demonstrate your new understandings as a result. However, avoid talking about "tragedy" or difficulty without a clear purpose. Don't write about it because you think "you should," only write about challenges if they are true to yourself and you have something meaningful and unique to say about them. Otherwise, it can come off as trying to garner sympathy (i.e. "sob stories") which admissions officers generally dislike.

More convincing than telling admissions officers, is presenting them with "evidence" and allowing them to come to the conclusion themselves. If you want to show the idea "I couldn't learn due to this condition," it is far more effective to do what this student did and say, "I'd just finished learning complex trig identities, and I now couldn't even count to ten." When drafting, it is normal and okay to start off with more "telling" as you get your ideas on paper. But as your essay progresses, you should transform those moments of "telling" into more powerful and convincing moments of "showing."

Having meaningful reflections is a critical part of having compelling essays. But make sure your takeaways are not surface-level or generic. Each admissions officer has likely read thousands of essays, so they are well aware of the common ideas and tropes. Avoid cliché ideas at all costs, because it comes across as forgettable and unoriginal. Instead, it is okay to start with surface-level ideas, but keep asking yourself probing questions like "Why" and "How" to push your ideas deeper.

This essay tells a nice story of overcoming their physical impediment, but ultimately lacks meaningful reflections in the conclusion. Too much time is spent on "the problem" and not enough on how they overcame it. Your conclusion should have your best, most compelling ideas in your entire essay. Try ending your essay by connecting to the beginning with a new perspective, expanding on your idea with a new takeaway, or connecting to broader, more universal themes. Avoid having a conclusion that "sounds nice," but ultimately is lacking in meaningful content.

Personal Statement Example #8: Game Design Music

This essay was admitted into Cornell University . It discusses a common conflict of ideology that comes with pursuing the arts. What the author does brilliantly is show how that conflict was reconciled, as well as how it changed their perspective.

My mom used to tell me this a lot. She’d always disapproved of my passion for the arts.

In this essay, the author does a fantastic job of showing how they are thoughtful in considering the perspectives of others, even though they may disagree. Showing that you can entertain ideas that you may disagree with is an admirable trait that admissions officers love to see, because intellectual discussion is all about trying to see other people's views. When writing about things that you may disagree with, try to play devil's advocate and see things from their point of view. Doing so will make you come off as thoughtful, understanding, and inquisitive, and it will strengthen your own viewpoint if you can identify arguments against it.

The best essays help admissions officers understand how you think about things. One strategy is to offer up questions to explore. These can be questions that arose during a particular moment or questions that you're reflecting upon right now. By using questions in your essay, you'll also present yourself as a thoughtful and curious thinker. Ultimately, you want to help the reader see things from your perspective by showing your thought process.

A good starting place for reflection can be in comparing and contrasting different topics. This could finding the similarities and differences in an extracurricular and an academic class, or any other number of things. By finding the similarities in things often thought of as "opposing," or finding the differences in things thought of as "similar," you can get to interesting ideas. Comparisons are useful because they force you to think from a different viewpoint. For example in this essay: How does "programming" relate to "song lyrics"?

This essay ends on a note that feels somewhat off-topic and not as interesting as their main idea. The conclusion leaves more to be wanted, as the reader ends up thinking: Are you simply seeking the approval of your parents? Or are you carving your own path in life? Or does the answer lie somewhere in between? Avoid ending your essay with a tangential idea. Instead, a strong conclusion is often closely related to the main point of your essay, but with a slight twist. By planning out your essay before writing, you can make sure that each point (from start to finish) connects the way you want it to and that your conclusion ends on a strong, well-connected note.

Personal Statement Example #9: Speech and Debate

I was still high off the competition, poring over ballots by the soft streetlights as we drove. “Are you sure you want to do this?” My Dad was worried about me. Worried about my world crashing down around me, losing friends, being crushed by hate. Scarred by controversy. I laughed it off, and we rode in silence.

Fast forward to my second or third year in the league. I wanted to have some fun. I emailed the regional coordinator, asking if there’s a rule against a speech advocating for same-sex marriage.

This essay has lots of interesting ideas about having discussions between people of different viewpoints. This student is able to reflect sincerely about what the benefit of that dialogue is ("iron sharpening iron") and able to draw meaningful conclusions ("hope lives in that laughter") that express deeper ideas. By focusing on these compelling reflections, this student shows themself as a brilliant and thoughtful thinker, while demonstrating what they value: discourse between opposing viewpoints. Rather than focusing on the literal happenings (i.e. giving a speech to their club), the student reflects on what that experience represents more broadly, which allows them to connect to deeper ideas.

This essay is full of details, without being wordy or drawn out. Even small details like naming the show "The Daily Show" or giving a number of "40,000+ theologies" makes their writing much more engaging and compelling. By avoiding broad and vague language, this student paints a fascinating picture that allows the reader to enter their world. It is always better to be specific than to be generic, but make sure that the specific details are always relevant to your point. This essay is a great example of how to do both.

This essay does a fantastic job of creating a "voice." That is, you can easily imagine the student as if they were speaking to you while reading it. To craft this voice, this student uses small moments of more informal language and interjecting remarks that show their thought process. Using parentheses can be a good way to show your voice by jumping in when you have a small remark to add. This student also demonstrates a sense of humor and lightheartedness while still discussing meaningful ideas. The sarcastic remark "because controversy has no place in a debate club!" demonstrates their values (of dialogue between differing viewpoints) as well as showing their sense of personality.

This essay's weakest point is its intro or "hook." In fact, it could work much better by excluding the introduction paragraph and starting off with the second paragraph: "Forgive the melodrama: this is a story..." That short phrase is much more captivating and immediately draws the reader in. The introduction paragraph in this essay is too much of a meandering and vague story: you don't know what they're talking about, and ultimately it doesn't matter. Rather than using a fancy story or descriptions to introduce your essay, try jumping into the "meat" of your essay immediately. Consider using a short, declarative sentence or phrase like "Forgive the melodrama" as a hook, which is more impactful and draws the reader immediately into your essay.

Personal Statement Example #10: Finding Answers

Common App Prompt #3: Reflect on a time when you questioned or challenged a belief or idea. What prompted your thinking? What was the outcome? (250-650 words)

My grandmother’s concern faded rather quickly as sirens fell distant and time passed.

After about 30 minutes, my grandfather’s friend ran toward the beach. My grandfather was not next to him. He was not there at all. At that moment, my grandma knew.

“Burt...he was with me...he slipped...he fell...I ran down the side of the mountain, off the trail, but I couldn’t find him. The park rangers are looking...” She stopped listening. She could see his lips moving, yet she heard nothing.

This essay repeats a lot of the same ideas or information, just using different words. Rather than "getting to the point," this repetition makes the essay feel meandering and like it is going nowhere ultimately. When drafting your essay, it is okay to have repetition (your drafts shouldn't be perfect, after all). But when editing, ask yourself with each sentence: does this add something new? Is this necessary to my main point? If not, you should exclude those sentences.

This essay starts off with a drawn-out story of the tragedy involving the author's grandfather. Most of this story is unnecessary, because all that really matters for this student's main idea is the fact that their grandfather passed away from a tragic accident. Details about his grandmother or his grandfather's best friend are unnecessary and distracting.

An important "rule" in college essays is to only write from your perspective. That is, don't describe things that you couldn't have seen or experienced. In this essay, the author spends a lot of time describing their grandfather's incident as if they was there to witness it. But we later learn that the author was not even alive at this point, so how could they be describing these things? On a smaller level, don't describe yourself from an outside perspective. For example, instead of, "I grimaced when I heard the news" (how did you see yourself grimace?) you could say, "I felt my stomach pang when I heard the news."

Your ideas are most valuable in your essays. Admissions officers want to see how you think, and having interesting ideas that are unique to you is how you demonstrate that you're thoughtful and insightful. Avoid surface-level ideas at all costs, as it comes off cliché. It is okay to start with more generic ideas, but you should always delve deeper. To get at deeper and more unique ideas, the key is to ask yourself questions. For example: Why is this the case? Why don't things work differently? What does this mean for other people? What does this represent? How can I apply this to other areas of life?

Personal Statement Example #11: Connecting with Others

Common App Prompt #5: Discuss an accomplishment, event, or realization that sparked a period of personal growth and a new understanding of yourself or others. (250-650 words)

It's important to create a "voice" in your personal statement, so that admissions officers can imagine your character and personality. Try to write as you would speak, but refined and polished. In this essay, natural-sounding phrases like "...let me admit, I was awful..." humanizes the author and makes the reader feel like they're being spoken to.

This essay is a perfect example of how effective essays don't need to have a super unusual story to be compelling. What makes this essay's story compelling is not necessarily the topic itself (meeting distant relatives), but instead how the student reflects and makes interesting connections to broader ideas. Even seemingly mundane experiences can make for meaningful personal statements topics.

This conclusion works well by connecting to the main story of the essay. However, certain phrases like "As a global citizen" and "I am hoping to forge relationships" are potentially too generic. Instead, try taking your main idea (in this case forming connections with others) and broaden it or connect to more universal ideas.

Personal Statement Example #12: Summer Confidence

This essay has a heartfelt moment where the author connects deeply with a camper and feels a sense of genuine gratitude. By showing their newfound connection with a person they were mentoring, this creates a sense of humanity and also tells a lot about the author themself. By talking about other people in your life, you create a literary "foil" which in turn describes something about yourself. Showing how you interact with others can be telling into your character, such as showing your empathy, sense of humor, friendliness, or how you draw inspiration from others.

This essay does a good job of expressing vulnerability, specifically the author's fears about the future and "deteriorating friendships" after going to college. By being vulnerable, these moments feel more relatable to the reader. Showing your struggles (especially emotional ones) can also make your later "successes" feel more impactful when you show how you've overcame them or persist in face of those struggles. By recognizing your flaws or insecurities, you also show self-awareness, which is a positive trait because you need to be self-aware in order to improve the areas of yourself you want to fix.

Although this essay does reflect upon the lessons learned during their time at this camp, the takeaways are ultimately surface-level and not delved into. Rather than saying things like "I had more confidence," it would be more engaging to show how that confidence made an effect and what exactly that "confidence" meant. This essay touches upon some meaningful lessons, but ultimately they fall flat because the nuances of these lessons are glossed over. Phrases like "upon further consideration it no longer fills me with...apprehension" don't delve into the most interesting part: How and why did that fear go away? What changed about your perspective and why? Instead, these are explained away with "confidence and maturity," which are too broad of terms and feel meaningless because they are overused in essays.

In your personal statement, it is completely OK to reference people by their first name. Using names makes your essay more vivid and engaging, while showing a deeper connection that you have with others. Rather than saying "other people" or "one of the older campers," it would be more impactful to use their first name. There are some caveats, however. Don't use their name if you're showing them in a negative light (which you probably shouldn't do anyway) or if you're revealing something personal about them. If you are revealing something personal, you can substitute their name for another name, or ask them for their direct permission.

Personal Statement Example #13: First Impressions

It had a nice ring to it, but I wasn’t a fan. Unfortunately, that’s what I imagined everyone saw first, and first impressions stick.

A caveat of my surgery was that the hair would grow, then one-third would fall off. My scar will never be completely gone, but I no longer feel defined by it like I did in elementary school.

An effective hook doesn't need to be complicated. Often, the best hooks are simple, declarative sentences. By using a short sentence, you'll immediately draw the reader into your essay and create a point of emphasis. In general, avoid long and meandering sentences to start your essay, and save those for later in your essay. Clear and succinct phrasing is often the hallmark of a strong hook.

To convey your ideas more strongly, show them using concrete examples. In this essay, the author does a great job of that by not saying "classmates only saw me for my scar," but instead showing that idea through the memorable image of "I learned about my classmates through their lunchbox covers...they saw me as the boy with the scar." Using tangible imagery makes for a compelling way of expressing your ideas, as it allows the reader to come to the conclusions you want them to, without just "telling" them.

Avoid exaggerating or "fluffing up" experiences in your essays. Instead, be realistic and tell them for what they are. This essay does that perfectly by using phrases like "I didn't have a sudden epiphany about my scar." Avoid using phrases like "suddenly, I..." which are often overused and unrealistic. Most new understandings aren't acquired in one moment in particular, but are developed over time.

This essay touches on some compelling ideas, such as how people can distill down other people into their physical attributes or ailments. However, it would be even stronger to delve deeper into these reflections by asking further questions: Why do we gravitate towards "categorizing" people based on surface-level attributes? What is the impact of only be acknowledged for surface-level characteristics by others, but knowing that you have much more depth to your character? This essay has some meaningful ideas, but other ideas such as "I can be whatever I want to be" feel surface-level and somewhat generic.

Personal Statement Example #14: Law Career

One great way to have interesting ideas is to show things that you find fascinating that other people may find boring. This essay describes how a judge mandating "reprimands for speeding tickets might be dull for some," but how they find it interesting. Everything, even the seemingly mundane, has interesting aspects if you're willing to look closely enough. When brainstorming, ask yourself: what do I find fascinating that others find boring? What do I think is "fun" while others may think it is "hard" or boring? By following these threads, you can often find unique and compelling ideas that allow you to bring the reader into your world and show them how you see the world uniquely.

A common trap when writing a personal statement is to use a descriptive, fiction-like story to start your essay. Although this may sound like a good idea, it is often ineffective because it buries what is most interesting (your ideas and reflections) and can easily be long and drawn out. Short, concise stories with a focus can be effective introductions, but in general avoid overly descriptive storytelling to start your essay. Also, avoid describing things that aren't critical to your main point. There is little to no benefit in describing things like "I smoothed my skirt and rose slowly from the chair." Focus on why your stories matter, rather than telling stories in a descriptive manner.

This essay does have some reflections, particularly about how the author discovered their passion for law by joining the Youth Court. However, most of these ideas end there, and there aren't any deep, unique ideas. The closest the author comes to having a unique and compelling idea is the final sentence where they write "the value of prioritizing the common good above individual success." This could be a fascinating topic to explore, but ultimately is cut short because it is tagged onto the ending. Your focus when brainstorming and drafting should be to have specific and original ideas—ideas that are not generic, not cliché, and not surface-level. To get to those ideas, ask yourself probing questions like "Why" and "How" over and over.

Personal Statement Example #15: My Asian Experience

Personal Statement Example #16: Secrets of Riddles

Common App Prompt #6: Describe a topic, idea, or concept you find so engaging that it makes you lose all track of time. Why does it captivate you? What or who do you turn to when you want to learn more? (250-650 words)

As I was going to St. Ives, Upon the road I met seven wives; Every wife had seven sacks, Every sack had seven cats: Cats, sacks, and wives, How many were going to St. Ives?

The riddles of life were not as straightforward as the puzzles in my books and websites. In fact, they were not straightforward at all, like winding mazes of philosophical quandary.

One of the most thought-provoking subjects that preoccupies my mind regards the existence of aliens. Initially, my mind was settled on the possibility of intelligent life. A universe so big could not possibly be lifeless.

As for the solution to the riddle at the start:

How many were going to St. Ives?

This essay does well by having a unique central topic—riddles—which allows the author to draw out interesting ideas related to this theme. Your topic doesn't necessarily need to be profound or hugely significant, because this author shows how you can take a seemingly unimportant topic and use it to make meaningful connections. In this essay, riddles grow to represent something greater than the activity itself, which is something you can do with almost any topic.

One of the most effective ways to "show, not tell" is to use specific and tangible examples. This essay does a great job of exemplifying their ideas. Rather than just saying "I enthralled my friends with questions," the author also shows this: "Over peanut butter and sliced ham, I assumed the role of story teller..." Examples are always more convincing because they are proof, and allow the reader to interpret for themselves. Don't tell the reader what you want them to think. Instead, set up moments that guide the reader to come to those conclusions themselves.

This conclusion connects back to the beginning, which is generally a good idea as it creates a cohesive structure. However, this ending doesn't quite make sense in the context of the riddle. Rather than creating new meaning, it comes off as arbitrary and contrived. Make sure your conclusion isn't creative just for creative-sake, and instead also has significant meaning attached to it.

Personal Statement Example #17: Rubik's Cube

Personal Statement Example #18: Narrative Diversity

If your cultural background or identity is an important part of who you are, then writing about it can make for a compelling essay. Often times in college admissions, Asian-Americans in particular are advised to "hide" their ethnic background, because it can be perceived to hurt their application. This student embraces their Asian heritage by recognizing ways in which they faced societal barriers. As this essay shows, regardless of your identity, there are unique aspects you can delve into that can make for compelling topics.

This essay does a great job of reflecting upon previously held beliefs, such as "I unconsciously succumbed to the 'reserve and quiet' Asian stereotype," and challenging them. Questioning your beliefs and where they came from can often be a good starting point for interesting reflection. Showing your new perspectives over time also conveys self-growth. Ask yourself: what did I once believe (in regards to myself, an activity, other people, etc.), what do I believe now, and how has this changed?

Rather than starting off with an activity and then reflecting upon it, this student takes a different approach. By introducing an interesting idea (the representation of underrepresented groups in media) and then later connecting to their activities, it makes the incorporation of those extracurriculars seem more appropriate and natural. The last thing you want to do is list your activities plainly, but it's still important to reference them. One strategy to naturally talk about your activities and accomplishments is to attach them to interesting ideas, as this essay shows.

Personal Statement Example #19: Search for Dreams

Common App Prompt #7: Share an essay on any topic of your choice. It can be one you've already written, one that responds to a different prompt, or one of your own design. (250-650 words)

The diamond leaves of gnarled oak trees throw spectrums of color onto mounds of frosty snow that gleam melancholily under the moonlight. The leaves chime as wind violently rustles them in a haunting melody. I splinter a leaf off its branch and inspect the shard of my illusion, eyes dancing with amusement.

As I dwell in my worries, a cold hand reaches from behind me and taps my shoulder.

I jerk away, fear bubbling in my amygdala as I look into the nonexistent eyes of my intruding visitor.

The moon illuminates a blob of pink squish as it draws back slowly, points its spindly hands towards my drink and asks: “Could I have some of that?”

The blob wipes its invisible mouth with its nonexistent sleeve. I ask: “What are you?”

The blob tells me to stop looking at it so suspiciously. “I can prove it,” It says. I tell it, please, go ahead.

Suddenly we are back in the glowing forest. “Diamonds? Pah!” The blob dismisses them. Instantly, the leaves turn solid gold, the snow melts, and the wintry world is thrown into a blistering summer.

The blob laughs heartlessly. “Your cortex is under my control,” it says smugly.

“I heard you had a question for me?” It taps its invisible ears knowingly.

The blob wriggles its invisible brows as it waits.

It smiles that wicked smile. It laughs that sinful laugh. Then that insufferable blob wakes me up.

As I sit up in the dark and rub my bleary eyes, I am vaguely aware of the deep­set unfulfillment settling itself inside me. I yawn and plop back into bed, the soft red glow of my alarm clock indicating that it is still before midnight.

One thing is for sure about this essay: it has a unique idea that has surely not been written before. Regardless of your topic, you want your essay to be unique in some way, even if it isn't as fantastical as this essay. You can use a unique structure, such as having central symbolism, metaphor, or being structured as a recipe, for example. But this can easily become "gimmicky" if it doesn't have a clear purpose. In general, the most effective way to have a unique essay is to focus on having deep and unique ideas and reflections. By focusing on interesting takeaways and connections that are ultra-specific to you and your experiences, your essay will standout regardless of the structure.

This essay uses a lot of fiction-like writing that is fantastical and "flowery." Although moments of this kind of writing can make your essay more vivid, it is quite easy to end up with dense storytelling and descriptions that ultimately don't share anything interesting about you. The purpose of your essay is ultimately to learn about you: your values, your ideas, your identity, etc. By using dense story-like writing, it can be easy to lose focus of what admissions officers are looking for. In general, avoid writing "fancy" stories like this essay, unless you have a clear and distinct purpose for doing so. Everything in your essay should have a purpose in "going somewhere" (i.e. reaching interesting ideas and takeaways).

This essay is definitely creative, but lacks meaningful takeaways and ideas. By the end of the essay, we don't know much about the author besides the fact that they have an affinity for creative writing and are "on a search." Although the content is unique, the end result comes off as quite generic and surface-level because no interesting thoughts are explored deeply. The most interesting part of this essay is "I open my mouth and ask it my most crucial question," but this is super unsatisfying because the question is never divulged. Instead, the reader is teased by this fantasy story and the essay goes nowhere meaningful, which comes off as gimmicky and "creative for creative's sake," rather than deeply personal and interesting.

This essay ends on the idea of "continuing my search," but for what exactly? It is never explained, elaborated, or even implied (besides one reference to painting earlier). That makes this conclusion comes off as somewhat surface-level and uninteresting. Admissions officers won't care about "your search" unless they have a reason to care. That is, unless it tells something specific about you. On it's own, this idea of "exploring" and "searching" is meaningless because it is too broad and unelaborated.

Personal Statement Example #20: Recipe for Success

Step 1: Collect the ingredients

Step 2: Marinate the meat

Step 3: Wrap the dumplings

Step 4: Boil or pan-fry?

Step 5: Share and enjoy!

This essay has a clearly unique format in that it is structured as a dumpling recipe. By walking the reader through each step of dumpling-making, the student is able to explore various ideas and use the dumpling process as a metaphor for their own self-discovery. Having a creative structure like this can be beneficial, so long as you also have compelling ideas and the structure isn't unique just for the sake of being unique.

This whole essay is one big metaphor: the student compares their self-growth to the process of making dumplings. In doing so, the student introduces their heritage, while also having a creative literary device that they can use to explore various topics. By having a "central theme" such as this essay does, it makes it easier to explore a variety of ideas and activities, without seeming like you're listing them.

Struggles are one of the most defining aspects of self-development, and admissions officers are interested to see how you have overcome challenges. These difficulties don't need to be extreme tragedies or insurmountable obstacles, but everyone has faced difficulties. By reflecting upon those difficulties, you can draw out interesting ideas, showcase vulnerability, and express your personality.

What You Can Learn From These Personal Statement Examples

With these 20 Personal Statement examples, you can get inspired and improve your own essays. If you want to get accepted into selective colleges this year, your essays need to make you stand out.

These 20 examples show how real students got into highly selective schools and teach us several lessons for writing your own successful Personal Statement essay:

• Write a compelling first sentence that grabs the reader
• Be specific and reference things by name
• Tell a meaningful story
• Reflect on your life and identity. Be self-aware.

If you enjoyed these personal statement examples, check out some of our top Common App Essays , which are also personal statements essays, but for the Common Application.

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Mastering The Art Of First Impressions For Professionals And Entrepreneurs, A Complete Guide

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• 5 August 2023

Throughout my corporate journey, which began in 1999, I have had the privilege of working in the Marketing, Branding, and Strategic teams, where meeting people has been a significant part of my role. It was during those early years, as I delved into branding books and immersed myself in the world of marketing, that I came across a statement that has stuck with me ever since: “First Impression is the Moment of Truth.”

This notion resonated deeply with me because, in the corporate world, the way we present ourselves and make that crucial first impression can have a lasting impact on our professional relationships and opportunities. As I interacted with countless individuals, attended networking events, and engaged in important business meetings, I realized the power and significance of creating a positive and memorable initial impression.

Corporate professionals and entrepreneurs, in particular, should be acutely aware of the importance of first impressions. These encounters often shape the trajectory of crucial business relationships, partnerships, and collaborations. Whether it is pitching an idea to potential investors, meeting a prospective client, or networking with industry leaders, the impressions we make in these moments can make or break our chances of success.

When meeting someone for the first time in a corporate setting, several factors come into play. Our attire, body language, and communication skills all contribute to the impression we create. A well-groomed appearance, confident demeanor, and effective communication can project professionalism, credibility, and trustworthiness. Conversely, a disheveled appearance, lack of confidence, or poor communication skills may cast doubt on our capabilities and hinder future opportunities.

As corporate professionals and entrepreneurs, we should strive to present our best selves from the very beginning. It is crucial to invest time and effort into personal branding, honing our communication skills, and mastering the art of active listening. By being attentive, demonstrating genuine interest, and engaging in meaningful conversations, we can build connections and establish a foundation of trust and respect.

Creating a good first impression is crucial in various aspects of life, whether it’s in professional settings, social interactions, or personal relationships.

A step-by-step guide to help you create a positive and memorable first impression

• Dress Appropriately: Pay attention to the occasion and dress accordingly. Choose outfits that are clean, well-fitted, and suitable for the environment you will be in. Dressing appropriately shows respect and demonstrates that you take the encounter seriously.
• Practice Good Posture: Stand or sit up straight, with your shoulders back and head held high. Good posture conveys confidence, openness, and attentiveness. Avoid slouching or crossing your arms, as these can create a barrier and give off a negative impression.
• Make Eye Contact: Maintain steady and friendly eye contact when interacting with others. It shows that you are attentive, engaged, and interested in the conversation. Be careful not to stare intensely, as that can make people uncomfortable. Instead, strike a balance and convey warmth and sincerity through your gaze.
• Offer a Warm Smile : A genuine smile can instantly create a positive and welcoming atmosphere. Smiling demonstrates friendliness, approachability, and puts others at ease. Practice smiling naturally, using your eyes and mouth, to convey warmth and sincerity.
• I ntroduce Yourself Confidently: When meeting someone new, introduce yourself confidently and clearly. Use a firm handshake while maintaining eye contact. Speak with a calm and clear voice, stating your name and offering a pleasant greeting. This shows confidence and leaves a positive impression.
• Be Mindful of Body Language: Pay attention to your body language as it can convey messages even before you speak. Stand or sit upright, face the person you’re conversing with, and use open and relaxed gestures. Avoid fidgeting, crossing your arms, or displaying defensive body language, as it can create barriers and project disinterest.
• Active Listening: Show genuine interest in the person you’re speaking with by practicing active listening. Focus on what they are saying, maintain eye contact, and respond appropriately. Ask questions, nod, and provide verbal cues to show that you are engaged and interested in the conversation.
• Positive Attitude: Maintain a positive and optimistic attitude during your interactions. This can be conveyed through your words, tone of voice, and non-verbal cues. Avoid complaining, gossiping, or speaking negatively about others, as it can create a negative impression.
• Be Authentic: Authenticity is key to creating a lasting impression. Be true to yourself and let your genuine personality shine through. People appreciate authenticity, and it helps establish a genuine connection. Avoid pretending to be someone you’re not or exaggerating your achievements, as it can be perceived as insincere.
• Practice Empathy and Respect: Show empathy and respect towards others by actively listening to their viewpoints, being considerate of their feelings, and treating them with kindness. Show genuine interest in understanding their perspective and be open to learning from their experiences.

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Remember, creating a good first impression takes practice and mindfulness. Each interaction is an opportunity to leave a positive impact, so strive to bring your best self forward. By following these steps and being genuine and respectful, you can create meaningful connections and establish a reputation for making great first impressions.

Furthermore, we must remember that first impressions are not limited to face-to-face encounters. In today’s digital age, our online presence and social media profiles often precede our physical meetings. Therefore, it is essential to curate a professional and authentic digital footprint that aligns with our personal and corporate brand.

They say, “You never get a second chance to make a first impression,” and indeed, the impact of initial encounters can be profound. Whether in personal or professional settings, the way we present ourselves in those critical first moments can shape perceptions, influence relationships, and leave a lasting impression on others. Understanding the importance of first impressions is crucial as it can open doors to opportunities and set the tone for future interactions.

First impressions are formed within seconds, often before a single word is exchanged. They are based on a combination of visual cues, body language, and non-verbal communication. People instinctively form opinions and judgments, sometimes subconsciously, based on these initial observations. It is the power of these instantaneous evaluations that underscores the significance of making a positive and memorable first impression.

In professional contexts, a strong first impression can be the key to landing a job, securing a new client, or establishing credibility and respect among colleagues. When meeting someone for the first time, factors such as attire, grooming, and body language play a vital role. A well-groomed appearance, confident posture, and attentive demeanor send signals of professionalism and competence. They communicate that you value the opportunity, take pride in your work, and are ready to engage in a meaningful way.

In personal relationships, first impressions shape the foundation of our connections with others. Whether it is a potential romantic partner, a new friend, or even meeting someone’s family, the impressions we leave can influence the course of those relationships. Warmth, authenticity, and genuine interest in others can foster a sense of trust and likability, paving the way for deeper connections and meaningful bonds.

Creating a great first impression can have a significant impact on corporate professionals and entrepreneurs. It sets the tone for how others perceive and interact with them, influencing various aspects of their professional lives.

The positive impact of a great first impression

• Building Trust and Credibility: A positive first impression helps establish trust and credibility, which are vital in business relationships. When individuals project professionalism, confidence, and competence, it instills confidence in others to trust their expertise and capabilities. This can lead to successful collaborations, partnerships, and opportunities.
• Opening Doors to Opportunities: A strong first impression can open doors to valuable opportunities. It can lead to invitations to networking events, job offers, and introductions to influential individuals within the industry. By making a positive impact from the start, corporate professionals and entrepreneurs increase their chances of being remembered and considered for future endeavors.
• Fostering Meaningful Connections: A great first impression can foster meaningful connections and relationships. When individuals exhibit warmth, genuine interest, and excellent interpersonal skills, they create an environment conducive to building strong professional networks. These connections can provide mentorship, support, and potential collaborations that contribute to long-term success.
• Enhancing Professional Reputation: A positive first impression contributes to building a strong professional reputation. Word-of-mouth recommendations and referrals often stem from initial encounters where individuals make a lasting impact. As their reputation grows, they become recognized for their expertise, integrity, and professionalism, attracting more opportunities and respect within their industry.
• Inspiring Confidence in Investors and Stakeholders: Entrepreneurs seeking funding or partnerships rely heavily on making a great first impression. Investors and stakeholders want to be assured that their resources are in capable hands. When entrepreneurs exude confidence, present a compelling vision, and demonstrate their commitment to success, they inspire confidence in those who hold the key to financial support and strategic alliances.
• Influencing Client Relationships: In client-centric industries, creating a positive first impression is crucial. Corporate professionals and entrepreneurs who impress clients with their knowledge, professionalism, and attention to detail are more likely to build long-term relationships. Satisfied clients become loyal advocates who recommend their services, leading to increased business growth and success.
• Gaining Competitive Advantage: In highly competitive markets, a great first impression can give professionals and entrepreneurs a competitive edge. When they distinguish themselves through their communication skills, expertise, and likeability, they stand out among their competitors. This differentiation can lead to greater recognition, increased market share, and higher success rates.

Overall, a great first impression can set the stage for success in the corporate world. It paves the way for meaningful connections, opportunities, and professional growth. By consistently making positive and memorable impressions, corporate professionals and entrepreneurs can build strong networks, foster valuable partnerships, and create a reputation that precedes them in the business world.

In conclusion, the importance of making a great first impression cannot be overstated in the corporate world. Corporate professionals and entrepreneurs who understand the impact of their initial encounters have a distinct advantage in building successful careers and thriving businesses.

By mastering the art of creating positive and memorable first impressions, individuals can open doors to valuable opportunities, build trust and credibility, foster meaningful connections, enhance their professional reputation, and inspire confidence in investors and stakeholders. These benefits contribute to long-term success, growth, and the establishment of a strong professional network.

It is crucial to remember that a great first impression is not just about superficial appearances but also about demonstrating genuine interest, active listening, effective communication, and a positive attitude. It is the combination of these elements that truly leaves a lasting impact on others.

So, whether you are attending a networking event, meeting potential clients, or interviewing for a job, always strive to bring your best self forward. Make a conscious effort to dress appropriately, exhibit confident body language, engage in meaningful conversations, and show empathy and respect to those you encounter.

As corporate professionals and entrepreneurs, we have the power to shape the narrative of our professional lives through the impressions we create. Let us embrace this opportunity to showcase our skills, expertise, and genuine interest in others. By doing so, we can forge strong connections, seize valuable opportunities, and pave the way for long-term success in the corporate world.

Remember, your first impression is your introduction to the world. So, make it count, leave a positive and memorable impact, and watch as doors open, relationships flourish, and your professional journey thrives.

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11 Scientific Ways to Make an Excellent First Impression

It’s very difficult to bounce back from a bad first impression—but that doesn’t mean you need to fear meeting new people.  Tackle first-time interactions with confidence with these 11 empirically proven strategies for making a lasting positive impression.

1. MAINTAIN STRONG (BUT NOT CREEPY) EYE CONTACT.

Studies have also shown that people who maintain eye contact are perceived as more intelligent—but there is such a thing as too much eye contact. Psychopaths are said to have “odd gaze patterns,” so don’t give your new connection the wrong idea.

2. HAVE A FIRM, WARM, AND DRY HANDSHAKE.

Researchers found that handshakes that are dry, firm, and warm are key to making a good first impression. These factors are especially important to keep in mind when meeting a woman you’ve never met before: It’s been proven that women are better than men at translating nonverbal cues, so they are more likely to appreciate and interpret a strong handshake.

3. CONSIDER THE TONE OF YOUR VOICE.

According to a 2014 study, judgments on trustworthiness, dominance, and likeability are all linked to the way that things are said. Researchers analyzed the way that 320 participants perceived the vocal attractiveness of men and women with new and unfamiliar voices. They found that a single spoken word, “Hello,” was enough to make a snap judgment on personality. Perhaps surprisingly, the study found that that lower pitched male voices were considered more dominant and attractive, while higher pitched female voices were considered more dominant and attractive. Overall, the researchers posit that older voices are perceived as more friendly and trustworthy.

4. DRESS FOR SUCCESS.

The old quote about dressing for the job you want holds true. A 2013 study asked 300 adult participants to make snap judgments on photographs of men wearing either highly tailored or ill-fitting off-the-rack suits. Consistently, the men with well-fitting suits were deemed more confident, successful, and higher-earning than their sloppily dressed counterparts.

5. PRACTICE GOOD HYGIENE.

This one should be common sense, but there is science that supports being clean is a solid skill when you’re networking. A 2007 study explored how members of the opposite sex formed first impressions based on mouth and tooth appearance. Both sexes preferred subjects with healthy dentition. However, tooth appearance played less of a role when participants were evaluating the attractiveness of members of the same sex.

6. GET A HAIRCUT, BUT GROW A BEARD.

In a study of beard and hair length’s effect on first impressions, researchers in 1978 found that short hair was more favorable while bearded men were considered more attractive than clean-shaven men. But with man buns currently in vogue, this study could stand to be repeated.

7. BE THERE IN PERSON, IF YOU CAN.

According to new research, your online dating profile may be doing you a disservice. A 2014 study evaluating the accuracy of first impressions made in person versus digitally proved that it’s best to meet face-to-face. Passive impressions—made by watching a video or looking through photos of a person—were found to be much more negative than impressions made during a three-minute speed dating-type interaction.

8. WAIT TO SPEAK.  

One prominent psychologist recommends letting the other person speak first. When you monopolize the conversation, you exhibit dominance rather than warmth. But if your new acquaintance feels understood and listened to, you encourage greater openness and acceptance.

9. SHOW INTEREST AND COLLECT INFORMATION.

Building trust during a first encounter is important, and one way to do that is to listen and connect on a personal level. While it might seem like a waste of time, small talk before a negotiation actually helps pave the way for a more fruitful conversation.

10. STRIKE A POSE.

Good posture shows that you’re confident, but there is another pre-meeting tip involving the body that you should try. Research on “power posing” shows that holding a strong pose for a couple of minutes increases testosterone and decreases cortisol.  These chemical changes configure the brain to make you feel more assertive, confident, and comfortable.

11. AND OF COURSE, SMILE.

Researchers in the United Kingdom explored the correlation between facial expressions and perceived personality and unsurprisingly found that upon meeting someone new, we study facial features to judge intentions and attraction. Big smiles are more positive than blank faces or furrowed brows. Smiles not only are more likely to get a positive reaction, but are more likely to be returned.

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Why Is The First Impression So Important And How Can We Improve It?

Are first impressions important? Can we improve the first impression we make? Discover the keys to knowing how to impact in a positive way in front of others.

Think about your most loved people, do you remember if you first impression Was it correct? No one can help but form a first impression of the people around them. For this precise reason, many of us wonder what the secret is to making a good impression on others.

The first impression is crucial because it forms the initial judgment and perception that others have of us, often influencing their attitudes, behaviors, and interactions with us thereafter. This phenomenon occurs within seconds of meeting someone and is based on a combination of visual, verbal, and nonverbal cues. Here, we explore why the first impression is so important and offer strategies for improving it.

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Why do we have first impressions?

When we first look at a person’s face our brain forms some quick judgments about their character. In fact, Jennifer K. South Palomares, a researcher at the University of York, informs us that first impressions They are more instantaneous than we imagine.

“Facial impressions are relevant since they occur very briefly (in just 33 ms) and have consequences, for example, predicting the results of government elections and influencing romantic preferences.”

That is, according to this study, it is evident that with a single look at the face for approximately 33 to 100 milliseconds, people already have enough information to form a first impression about a person.

There is almost universal agreement among researchers as to why people we make a first impression of others. Generally, we as individuals like people who seem like they will give us a social benefit. This is how most people are attracted to people who have something to offer in every way (academically, economically and socially).

In this way, people tend to look at those people who have social gifts such as appreciation, connection, empathy, among others. That is, we look for those subjects who can make their senses understood and open their minds to new perspectives and information. In short, those who can enrich their lives.

On the other hand, most tend to avoid those that generate a first impression bad. This means leaving behind people who seem bored, insecure, and needy. This is why mental health is so important not only for you, but for those around you. Contributing to improving your life and that of others is a fact that will not only benefit you, but also your entire circle.

Importance of the First Impression

1. instant judgment.

• Humans are hardwired to make snap judgments based on limited information. The first impression serves as a mental shortcut for categorizing and evaluating others, helping us make quick decisions in social and professional settings.

2. Lasting Impact

• Research suggests that first impressions are remarkably resilient and can be challenging to change once formed. Positive first impressions tend to be more enduring than negative ones, shaping subsequent interactions and relationships.

3. Influence on Perception

• The first impression sets the tone for how others perceive and interpret our words and actions. Positive first impressions create a favorable bias that colors subsequent interactions, while negative first impressions may lead to skepticism or distrust.

4. Professional Opportunities

• In professional contexts, the first impression can significantly impact career prospects, job interviews, and networking opportunities. Employers often form opinions about candidates based on their initial interactions, influencing hiring decisions and career advancement.

How are first impressions created?

Researcher Leslie Zebrowitz, a social psychologist at Brandeis University, has identified four facial features in which We base our first impressions

• The presence of childish traits: Most human beings have an innate sympathy for babies. Those people who have larger eyes and foreheads as well as rounded heads are more likely to be treated more kindly.
• Familiarity : We tend to judge our surroundings based on their appearance. That is why if you find someone who looks like a person you know, you will tend to think that they have a similar character.
• ‘Fitness’ levels : According to research by Dr. Zebrowitz, there is a belief that healthy people are more attractive and intelligent, which is why we prefer as friends those individuals who have a healthy appearance. Furthermore, we judge their aptitudes based on the facial symmetry and proportionality of their faces.
• Emotional similarity: A large part of the population has a very good ability to read the facial expressions of others. For this reason, many can determine if a person is more smiling than others by the most marked features on their face.

Although these four signs are physical characteristics that cannot be manipulated, the reality is that people who have a positive attitude towards life and good self-esteem usually make a good impression For this reason it is very important to take care of ourselves inside and out and go to a psychologist if there is a problem inside us. As you can see, making a good first impression depends a lot on it. Even so, here we will show you the keys to improving these impressions and why they end up being so important.

Is the first impression so important?

We’ve all heard the popular culture saying that first impressions are important Now, through studies and research, we know that this claim is true.

When you meet a new person, your brain becomes forms an impression that dictates how he thinks you are and whether he would like to get to know you better. These signals end up reaching the most primary emotional centers of your brain. In the end it is there where you get the feeling of whether you will constitute a threat or a benefit to the person in question.

This same information about the first impression It implies that people decide if they want to be in a relationship with you before you’ve even introduced yourself. Furthermore, making a good impression is not only generated in an instant but will last a long time until they are replaced by the reality of your person. This event is called the ‘primacy effect’ and it consists of individuals tending to give more truth to the things they initially learn about someone than to the data they collect later.

In this way, it really seems that the first impression is what counts for most people. In fact, even the people you meet will end up looking for behaviors in you that confirm their conclusion and will avoid information that contradicts them. your first impressions So much so that even this very event can determine whether or not you can get a job through the selection process. That is why acquiring confidence and self-esteem is one of the best methods to improve your life in every way.

Are first impressions accurate?

Although it may seem unfair that someone generates a first impression from you so quickly, many studies have shown that this information collected by the brain has a point of truth.

So much so that according to some researchers they have theorized that even our genetics may have evolved to transmit personality traits through the face. On the other hand, it may also be that certain expressions remain quite engraved on our face. Furthermore, our moods and attitude are also transmitted through our body language. So the way we walk, gesture and how we behave in general says a lot about who we are and how we are.

That is, even though the first impressions They seem like a very superficial attitude, the reality is that these come from internal traits of ourselves.

Strategies for Improving the First Impression

1. dress appropriately.

• Dress in attire that is appropriate for the occasion and reflects your personal style and professionalism. Pay attention to grooming and presentation, as appearance often shapes initial perceptions.

2. Maintain Positive Body Language

• Use open and confident body language, such as maintaining eye contact, smiling, and standing or sitting upright. Avoid behaviors that convey nervousness or defensiveness, such as fidgeting or crossing arms.

3. Be Authentic and Genuine

• Be yourself and strive to convey authenticity and sincerity in your interactions. Avoid trying to impress others by being overly boastful or insincere, as authenticity is often perceived positively.

4. Listen Actively

• Practice active listening by giving your full attention to the other person and responding thoughtfully to their comments. Show genuine interest in their perspective and experiences, and avoid interrupting or dominating the conversation.

5. Show Empathy and Warmth

• Display empathy, warmth, and kindness in your interactions, as these qualities are universally appealing and foster connection. Express genuine concern for others’ well-being and make an effort to understand their emotions and experiences.

6. Prepare and Practice

• Prepare for social and professional encounters by anticipating common questions, topics, or scenarios. Practice introducing yourself, delivering a brief elevator pitch, and engaging in small talk to build confidence and fluency.

7. Follow Up

• After the initial interaction, follow up with a brief message or gesture to reinforce the positive impression and express gratitude for the opportunity to connect. This demonstrates professionalism, courtesy, and genuine interest in maintaining the relationship.

How to make a good first impression

The best formula to be able to improve a first impression that is given externally is precisely to beautify our inner part. For this precise reason it is so important to take care of yourself on the inside, through the help of professional psychologists if necessary, and on the outside. Also, here we show you some suggestions to know how to make a good impression in any situation.

• Dress better than the occasion requires: Although the most effective thing is to feel comfortable with the clothing we wear, many studies indicate that wearing more elegant or flattering clothing makes us let’s make a better impression in the others.
• Make eye contact: Establishing eye contact with others is proof of your self-confidence. Additionally, this is an effective way to show interest in others.
• Smile: The smile is the most effective weapon to create a good first impression In this way, humans identify smiles at great distances since our unconscious seeks the approval of others through them.
• Think positive: Even if we don’t say negative thoughts out loud, the reality is that our way of acting reveals our feelings. That is why it is very important to have a positive attitude to face life.
• Adapt to the other’s attitude: People look for people who are similar to us. For this reason, one way of knowing how to act on the first date or in the first moments of meeting someone it is trying to imitate (without being shameless) their movements.
• Have confidence in yourself: The most crucial way to be liked by others is to be yourself and trust that you can be an interesting person to others. This is how you should try to avoid wanting to convey something that you are not.
• Express the attributes that stand out most about you: Like the first impressions are important highlighting the best in yourself is not bad but is something completely recommended to try to make others like you.

First impressions reveal a crucial fact that we must keep in mind at all times: The important thing is to feel good inside and out. Enjoying a good attitude towards ourselves and taking care of ourselves mentally and physically not only has positive effects towards the first impression that we give but also for ourselves. Health should, for all these reasons, be one of the most cared for areas of our lives.

The first impression is a powerful determinant of how others perceive and respond to us, shaping our social and professional interactions in significant ways. By understanding the importance of the first impression and implementing strategies to improve it, we can cultivate positive relationships, build trust and credibility, and create opportunities for personal and professional growth.

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Mastering the Art of First Impressions: Your Guide to Creating Lasting Connections

In today’s dynamic and interconnected world, the ability to create lasting connections and make a memorable impact on the corporate world is more important than ever.

Whether you’re attending a networking event, going on a first date, or entering a crucial business meeting, the art of making a great first impression can pave the way for success. It sets the stage for meaningful relationships, opens doors to exciting opportunities, and leaves a lasting mark on those you encounter. But what exactly makes a first impression remarkable?

It’s a delicate dance between non-verbal cues, polished appearance, effective communication skills, fairly accurate personality judgments, and the demonstration of self-assurance, confidence, and authenticity.

I’ll share how to create impactful first impressions, why impressions matter, the importance of non-verbal communication for impression accuracy, the significance of a polished appearance, the role of effective verbal communication in impression management, and the importance of exuding confidence and authenticity.

Plus much more—let’s dive in.

The Importance Of First Impressions

When it comes to making a first good impression, or bad first impression, its significance cannot be overstated. Research states that it takes just a few seconds for individuals to form their impressions based on an initial judgment about someone they meet.

These initial impressions and perceptions of people tend not to solidify within a mere 30 seconds, of course, making it crucial to cultivate positive first impressions.

First impressions play a pivotal role in your personal and professional life. In personal relationships, the first impression sets the foundation for future interactions and can influence the development of a lasting connection.

In professional settings, a bad first impression often can determine whether you receive opportunities for career advancement, a potential new job interview, partnerships, and other important matters of business and career success.

Mastering Non-Verbal Communication

Non-verbal communication is a language of its own, capable of speaking volumes without uttering a single word. It encompasses body language, facial expressions, gestures, and even the tone of voice.

When it comes to creating a strong and positive first impression, mastering the way you communicate is paramount. It can significantly influence how others perceive and respond to you.

Here are some essential tips to help you refine your non-verbal communication skills and make a lasting impact

Positive and Confident Body Language

Your body language speaks volumes before you even utter a word. It has the power to convey confidence, openness, and approachability.

Stand tall with your back straight, shoulders back, and head held high. Good posture not only improves your physical presence but also signals confidence and self-assurance. It shows that you are attentive and ready to engage in meaningful conversation.

You’ll also want to strike a balance between being relaxed and attentive when talking and engaging in conversation. Avoid stiff or rigid postures, as they can make you appear unapproachable.

Instead, maintain a relaxed stance while still showing active interest through subtle nods, leaning slightly forward, and maintaining your position with open body orientation.

Keep your arms open and relaxed by your sides or use them purposefully to support your verbal communication. Open body language invites others to approach you and encourages a positive exchange.

Lastly, smile. A smile is a universal sign of warmth and approachability.

When meeting someone for the first time, greet them with a genuine smile. It instantly creates a positive and welcoming atmosphere, making others feel at ease in your presence. Remember, a smile is contagious and can help set the tone for a pleasant interaction.

Eye Contact

Eye contact is a powerful tool for making a great first impression. It conveys attention, interest, and respect.

When engaging a person in conversation, establish eye contact early on. As the conversation progresses, maintain regular eye contact to signal ongoing interest and engagement and demonstrate that you value the person’s words and opinions.

While maintaining eye contact is important, it’s also essential to strike a balance. Occasionally glancing away can prevent the conversation from becoming intense or overwhelming. This subtle break in making eye contact allows for a more relaxed and natural flow of conversation.

As always, engage in active listening by using your eyes effectively, nodding occasionally, raising your eyebrows to show interest, and maintaining a soft gaze. These visual cues assure the other person that you are fully present and interested in what they have to say.

Appropriate Gestures

Gestures can enhance your communication and help convey your message with clarity and impact.

Use hand movements to emphasize key points or illustrate concepts. Purposeful gestures can enhance the understanding and engagement of your audience. However, be mindful of the context and the cultural norms of the setting to ensure your gestures are appropriate and well-received.

While gestures can be powerful when making a first impression, it’s important not to overdo them. Excessive or erratic movements can detract from your message and come across as distracting or unprofessional.

In certain situations, mirroring or matching the gestures of the other person you’re interested in interacting or talking with can foster a sense of rapport and connection. Subtly reflect their body language to create a subconscious bond and match that person’s personality to make them feel more comfortable.

Facial Expressions

Your facial expressions convey emotions and help establish a connection. As mentioned, a smile is one of the most captivating expressions. It conveys friendliness, openness, and approachability.

When meeting someone for the first time, offer a genuine smile to create a positive and inviting atmosphere. A warm smile can set the stage for a pleasant interaction and leave a lasting positive impression.

Whatever your facial expressions are, they should reflect warmth and genuine interest in the person you are conversing with. Maintain an attentive expression by keeping your eyebrows relaxed and slightly raised. Show engagement through subtle head nods and a relaxed facial demeanor.

Be sure to avoid negative or inappropriate facial expressions that can create negative first impressions. Avoid frowning, scowling, or rolling your eyes, as these expressions can convey disinterest, judgment, or disrespect. Maintain a pleasant and open facial expression to foster a positive and welcoming environment.

Polished Appearance and Dressing for Success

Personal grooming and attire significantly impact the impression you make on others. They are visible indicators of your attention to detail, professionalism, and self-care.

How you present yourself through your physical appearance can greatly influence how others perceive and respond to you. Here are some essential aspects to consider when it comes to your appearance.

Grooming and Hygiene

Personal grooming habits significantly contribute to the impression you make on others. By paying attention to cleanliness, hairstyle, and overall presentation, you showcase your self-care and attention to detail.

Well-groomed people often create a positive and polished first impression, as they demonstrate a sense of professionalism and respect for themselves and those around them.

Take the time to maintain a clean appearance, ensure a neat hairstyle, and present yourself in a way that reflects your personal style and the context of the situation. Remember, grooming and hygiene are essential components of presenting your best self and making a memorable, good impression when first meeting someone.

Dressing Appropriately

Adapting your attire to different occasions and environments is key to making a positive impression. Understanding the dress code expectations and aligning your own clothing style with the specific context demonstrates respect for the situation and the people you are interacting with.

Dressing appropriately shows that you value the occasion and have taken the time to consider how your appearance can contribute to a positive and harmonious environment.

Your attire is a visual representation of your professionalism and consideration, and it plays a vital role in creating a strong and memorable first impression.

Dressing for Success

In professional settings, dressing for success holds significant importance. Your attire has the power to enhance your credibility and professionalism. Opt for well-fitted, tailored clothing that flatters your body shape and aligns with the industry norms and company culture.

Choose appropriate colors and styles that project confidence and competence. By dressing for success, you convey a level of attention to detail and a commitment to presenting yourself in the best possible light.

Whether it’s for a formal business gathering, a job interview, or just your day-to-day office day, when you dress for success, you exude confidence and create an image that instills trust and respect among your colleagues, clients, and business partners.

Accessories

Choosing the right accessories is also essential in creating a well-rounded and cohesive overall appearance. Complement your style and enhance your outfit without overpowering it with your accessories.

Simple and tasteful accessories can add a touch of personality while maintaining a professional and polished image. A classic watch, a subtle piece of jewelry, or a professional bag or briefcase will align with the occasion and reflect your attention to detail.

The goal is to strike a balance between personal expression and maintaining a professional demeanor. Thoughtfully chosen accessories can elevate your overall impression, showcasing your style and attention to detail in a subtle yet impactful way.

Effective Verbal Communication Skills

While non-verbal cues are vital, verbal communication also plays a critical role in making a great first impression. It complements your non-verbal communication by conveying your thoughts, ideas, and personality.

Here are some strategies to improve your verbal communication skills.

Clear and Confident Speech

To effectively convey your message, it’s important to speak clearly, enunciate your words, and modulate your voice. Ensure that your words are easily understood by articulating them with clarity and precision.

Avoid speaking too softly, as it may make it difficult for others to hear you, or speaking too loudly, which can be overwhelming or off-putting. Find a comfortable volume and tone that is appropriate for the situation and the people you are interacting with.

Clear and confident speech not only enhances your communication but also projects professionalism and competence. When you speak with clarity, confidence, and appropriate volume, your words have the power to captivate and engage others, leaving a lasting positive impression.

Active Listening

Active listening is a crucial skill in making a great first impression when meeting someone. Giving your full attention to the person speaking and demonstrating genuine engagement is key.

Actively listening when meeting someone requires more than just hearing the words, it involves understanding and valuing what the other person is saying.

Show your attentiveness by nodding in agreement or acknowledgment, maintaining eye contact to establish a connection, and providing verbal affirmations. These cues convey that you are actively processing and appreciating their thoughts and ideas.

By actively listening and talking, you create a sense of mutual respect and understanding, fostering a meaningful connection from the very first interaction.

Meaningful Conversations

Moving beyond surface-level small talk is essential in making a lasting first impression. Engage in conversations that delve into meaningful topics and demonstrate a genuine interest in the thoughts, experiences, and perspectives of the person you are interacting with.

Instead of sticking to generic questions, ask thoughtful and more specific questions and inquiries that invite deeper dialogue. Show curiosity and actively listen to their responses, allowing the conversation to flow organically. By engaging the person in meaningful conversations, you create a space for authentic connections to flourish. Genuine interest in the other person’s world fosters a sense of trust, rapport, and mutual understanding.

Thoughtful Questions

Asking thoughtful, open-ended questions is powerful in making a great impression. By posing questions that invite the other person to talk and share more about themselves, you demonstrate genuine curiosity and interest.

Open-ended questions encourage meaningful conversations and allow the person to provide insightful and personal responses. These questions go beyond simple yes or no answers and encourage the other person to reflect, share their experiences, and express their thoughts and emotions. By asking thoughtful questions, you create a dynamic exchange that fosters a sense of connection and engagement.

The key is to actively listen to their responses and respond with genuine interest and follow-up questions. Thoughtful questions pave the way for meaningful interactions, enabling you to establish a deeper connection from the outset.

Demonstrating Confidence and Authenticity

Confidence and authenticity are key ingredients in creating a strong and memorable first impression. When you demonstrate confidence, you inspire trust and captivate others.

When you exhibit authenticity, you allow people to connect with the real you. Here are some tips to help you project confidence and authenticity.

Embracing Self-Confidence

Believing in yourself and your abilities will help you make a good and make a first impression, that others remember. Embrace your unique strengths and accomplishments, allowing them to radiate in your interactions.

Practice positive self-talk and affirmations to boost your confidence and recognize your worth and the value you bring to the table. When you project self-assurance, others are more likely to perceive you as competent and capable. Embracing self-confidence sets the stage for a positive and impactful first impression.

Overcoming Nervousness and Anxiety

Social situations can often trigger feelings of nervousness and anxiety. Overcoming these emotions can be challenging, but there are techniques that can help. Deep breathing exercises can calm your nerves and provide a sense of grounding.

Visualize yourself succeeding and feeling at ease in social interactions. Use positive affirmations to reaffirm your confidence and capability.

Everyone experiences nerves to some extent, and managing them is a skill that can be developed. By effectively managing nervousness and anxiety, you can project a sense of calm and composure, enhancing your first impression.

Being Authentic

Be true to yourself and avoid trying to be someone you’re not. Embrace your unique qualities, quirks , and strengths. When you present your authentic self, others can sense your genuineness and connect with you on a deeper level. Authenticity fosters trust and rapport, as it demonstrates that you are comfortable in your own skin and have nothing to hide. Allow your true personality to shine through, and let others appreciate the real you.

Positive Mindset

Cultivating a positive mindset is instrumental in making a strong first impression. Focus on the present moment and avoid dwelling on past failures or anxieties about the future.

A positive outlook allows you to approach interactions with optimism and enthusiasm. It radiates warmth and optimism, making you more approachable and likable.

When you maintain a positive mindset, you exude confidence and create a welcoming atmosphere for others. Embrace positivity as a foundational aspect of your job and your first impression managem ent toolkit, and watch how it positively impacts your connections and job opportunities.

Cultivating Empathy and Respect

Empathy and respect are fundamental in creating positive first impressions, fostering meaningful connections, and building strong relationships. They allow us to understand and appreciate others’ perspectives, experiences, and emotions.

Here’s how you can cultivate these qualities.

Empathy in Action

Put yourself in others’ shoes and make a genuine effort to understand their perspectives and emotions. Activ ely listen to what they have to say and respond with empathy.

Show that you value their opinion, thoughts, and feelings by acknowledging and validating them. When you demonstrate empathy, you create a sense of understanding and connection, fostering a meaningful and memorable first impression.

Treating Others with Respect and Kindness

Respect and kindness are fundamental in creating a positive first impression. Treat everyone with respect, regardless of their background, status, or opinions. Show consideration and appreciation for others’ thoughts and contributions.

Be mindful of your words

 and actions, ensuring they reflect kindness and inclusivity. When you treat others with respect and kindness, you create a welcoming and harmonious environment that sets the stage for meaningful connections.

Genuine In terest in Others

Demonstrating a genuine interest in talking to others is a surefire way to make a good first impression. Show curiosity about their lives, experiences, and passions.

Ask open-ended questions that invite them to talk and share more about themselves. Actively listen to their responses, giving them your full attention.

By showing sincere interest, you create a space where others feel valued and heard. Meaningful conn ections are built on the foundation of genuine interest and curiosity.

Building Trust and Rapport

Empathy is instrumental in building trust and rapport. By understanding and acknowledging others’ perspectives and emotions, you create a safe and supportive environment. Show compassion and empathy in your interactions, making others feel comfortable and accepted.

When people trust you, they are more likely to open up, share their thoughts and feelings, and form a de eper connection. Building trust and rapport through empathy sets the stage for meaningful and long-lasting relationships.

How To Make A Great First Impression

Making a great first impression is an art that can open doors to exciting opportunities and the one chance to forge lasting connections. It’s about unleashing your personal magnetism and leaving a positiv e, indelible mark on those you meet

Simply recap these key strategies to immediately put these ideas into action and a second chance to make a great, first-time job interview impression:

• Master non-verbal communication through positive body language, eye contact, appropriate gestures, and warm facial expressions.
• Pay attention to your appearance , dress appropriately for each occasion, and dress for success in professional settings.
• Improve verbal communication skills by speaking clearly and confidently, actively listening, engaging in meaningful conversations, and asking thoughtful questions.
• Embrace confidence and authenticity, overcome nervousness, and develop a positive mindset.
• Cultivate empathy , treat others with respect and kindness, show genuine interest in others, and build trust and rapport.

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arch and consistently practicing and applying these techniques in real-life scenarios, you can take control of your first impressions and create lasting connections.

Additionally, small changes in your physical appearance can change your life.

“Making a great first impression is imperative to becoming an influential leader.”

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First Impressions

There may be more to first impressions than you realize, a new comprehensive look at first impressions shows why yours might be wrong..

Posted June 29, 2021 | Reviewed by Abigail Fagan

• There are four basic categories of judgments when people form first impressions: informational cues, motives, processes, and outcomes.
• First impressions shape immediate judgments as well as lasting perceptions that can influence a person's trajectory.
• First impressions often need to be revised based on new information at different intervals of the relationship.

There’s a certain mystique about first impressions that leads some people to believe that they’re good at judging others by a single glance. How true is this?

Consider the following examples. You might be in a position to decide whether to hire someone to do a job for you, such as pet-sitting your beloved cat while you take a short vacation. Perhaps, instead, you want to sell a household item via a local online service. Before making a final decision, you agree to meet face-to-face. You feel confident you can trust your gut, so when a little voice inside you says to go ahead or stay away, you make your choice almost instantly.

Conversely, you might be the person whose fate is in the hands of someone else whose decision it is to accept or reject your offer of services or purchase. Since you think you’re so good at judging others, you devise the situation so that you will seem as appealing as possible. You decide what to wear and whether to let your tattoos be in plain view or behind a long shirt sleeve. Should you wash out that temporary purple hair dye?

The process of forming first impressions may seem both simple and intuitive. However, according to a new comprehensive review paper by University of Florida’s Brian Swider and colleagues (2021), deciding on who to trust or not can be fraught with complexities and nuances. Examining the published literature within the framework of occupational psychology, Swider and his team lay out the many variations that can influence the quality of a first impression with results that might surprise you.

The 4 Fundamental Elements of a First Impression

It’s important to point out right away that the Swider et al. model was developed in job settings, and so is intended to apply to decisions made with respect to situations such as hiring and business negotiations. However, because people make similar decisions in the course of their daily lives outside of work such as the examples of the cat sitter or the home item purchaser, their framework can be viewed from this broader perspective.

To begin with, the research team observes that “first impressions at work not only impact immediate judgments and behavioral responses but can also have profound, long-term impacts on individuals and their careers.” This very statement should give you pause the next time you’re about to rush into a judgment. True, the cat sitter might only be coming to your house for a few days or that online purchaser might very well pick up the item, pay you, and leave without ever seeing you again. But it’s also possible for something to go very wrong in either situation, leaving you with longstanding problems in the worst case or at least a nuisance that can last for weeks.

Putting yourself in the position of the one to be hired or trusted, you also know that decisions involving your fate can have significant implications. In the case of seeking employment, if a job interview goes badly, you can suffer economic consequences that make your life difficult as you’re trying to make ends meet. On the other hand, if you’re chosen for a position, you’ll now be in a life trajectory that would be very different than if you weren’t. You might meet people on the job who become your friends for life or possibly a relationship partner who happens to work in a different worksite in your building.

As you now think about the potential impact of such snap decisions, consider next the Swider et al. framework’s 4 elements:

1. Informational cues : These are, in the words of the authors, “observable attributes or stimuli that are exchanged and perceived early in interactions to create inferences.” Examples of informational cues include facial characteristics, height, and weight, which are inherent in your appearance as well as intentional manipulations of your appearance such as facial piercing, tattoos, hairstyle, and choice of clothes. You also provide information by virtue of your communication style, including such nonverbal cues as your handshake.

Since first impressions can cut both ways, you also make your own judgments about people on the basis of this observable “data.” At the same time, decisions based on first impressions also can vary according to perceived similarities and differences between the two parties. People who adopt similar styles of dress and who seem to come from similar backgrounds might be more drawn to each other than those who are polar opposites.

2. Motives: The “ goals one seeks to make progress toward or attain during the initial interaction” further drive the first impression process. The two basic first impression motives that people emit or respond to are those cluing competence and those cluing warmth. Depending on the situation, you might want to seem competent rather than warm, and vice versa. Similarly, the person you’re judging might put you off by seeming so determined to appear competent that they seem unfeeling. After all, you might want a cat sitter who knows how to open a can of food and be sure to lock up when they're done, but don’t you also want someone who will spend a few minutes soothing your lonely creature?

3. Processes: There’s an interactive effect of cues and motives that Swider et al. define as the “process” of first impressions. As the person giving off the first impression cues, you may try to determine which will have the greatest impact on the choice. You’ll do this in a way that you hope will fit with the expectations of the person making the decision and try the best you can to provide cues that you think will have the desired impact. As the perceiver, you’re rapidly encoding the information presented to you to see if there’s a match between what you need from this person and what you think they’ll provide.

4. Outcomes: What is the result of the previous three phases? If you’re the one doing the hiring, you have to determine whether to go with this person, and according to Swider and colleagues, you’ll base this on whether you think your goals can be achieved. If you’re the one in the hot seat, the person choosing you will go through a similar process. As time goes on, you’ll continue to be judged when it comes to decisions about future promotions, hiring/firing, or establishment of a solid, trusting relationship.

What Makes for a Valid First Impression?

With these elements in place, now consider whether the “right” or “wrong” choice will follow from the first impression. Indeed, the team notes, how can you even decide whether a decision is valid or biased? A valid decision would be one in which the perceptions match the “facts.” You’ve sold your precious bedroom dresser to someone who writes back with a warm thank-you and expresses pleasure at how well it fits into their apartment. Your cat seems healthy and happy on your return. That new person you meet in your building ends up becoming your long-term romantic partner. Clearly, these were good decisions.

A “wrong” decision, would be a hunch that turns out to cause you to experience a harmful outcome. However, given that so much of first impressions are based on subjective factors, a wrong decision could also be a biased one. What if you were rejected from a job that you were perfectly qualified for because you wore the wrong outfit to your interview or that tattoo started to peek out of your shirt sleeve? What if you were the one to make a biased decision and therefore missed out on a great opportunity due to some little cue from the person being misinterpreted?

If you think you’re a great judge of other people and you’ve committed an error in your decision, the next question becomes what you do next. Ideally, you can revise your tendency to rely on hunches to try to become more open to alternative interpretations. You’ll learn not to be so hasty and instead take in more facts before making a choice. You could ask for references for the next cat-sitter, or check the online ratings of that potential furniture buyer.

Taking time before rushing into judgments would seem to be the best bet for you to protect against mistaken decisions in the future. Swider et al. lay out a model based on length of first impression beginning with the shortest ranges of from zero seconds (checking into someone online) to as long as six months. In a job setting, these longer intervals can include judgments of performance (two days), personality (two weeks), match between job interview impression and behavior on the job (six weeks), justice/fairness (three months), and trust (up to six months). You may not want to take six months before deciding on that cat sitter, but you might ask for a second meeting before making a commitment.

The greatest caution, based on this examination of the literature, would seem to be that you avoid what’s called the “primacy effect,” in which you let your first impression dominate all your later perceptions of a person regardless of what happens as the situation unfolds. Rather than place too much confidence in your hunches, try to take a more measured and objective approach as you learn from the outcomes of the decisions you make about people.

To sum up, there’s no way to avoid making decisions about people, whether you’re the judger or the one being judged. Knowing the limitations of the judging process can help you turn your first impression into your best impression.

Swider, B. W., Harris, T. B., & Gong, Q. (2021). First impression effects in organizational psychology. Journal of Applied Psychology. https://doi.org/10.1037/apl0000921

Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D. , is a Professor Emerita of Psychological and Brain Sciences at the University of Massachusetts Amherst. Her latest book is The Search for Fulfillment.

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For decades, the elevator pitch has been associated with entrepreneurs seeking funding or pitching their groundbreaking ideas to potential investors. But now it's evolved into a potent tool that transcends industries and benefits professionals of all backgrounds. Because networking is an integral part of professional growth, a strong elevator pitch is an incredibly valuable statement to have. It's a conversation starter that facilitates dialogue and forges relationships that can lead to collaborations, mentorship and career advancements.

To best establish your brand and make yourself memorable, it's important to understand how an elevator pitch can advance your career and how you can create the right one.

The Expanding Relevance Of The Elevator Pitch

In today's dynamic professional landscape, the elevator pitch's application has expanded beyond the realm of startups and business ventures. It's an asset for professionals in any field, whether you're working in finance, healthcare, marketing, education or beyond. You can also benefit from honing your elevator pitch skills at any stage in your career. Whether you're a seasoned executive, a recent graduate or somewhere in between, the ability to concisely communicate your value proposition is always essential.

In the past, the elevator pitch was often seen as a one-way street, with professionals delivering their pitches to a passive audience. However, the contemporary elevator pitch is more than a monologue. It's a way for you to engage with others and spark meaningful connections. By embracing the concept of a dialogue and actively listening to others' responses, you can create authentic connections, foster collaboration and explore new possibilities with the help of your elevator pitch.

The Power Of A Compelling Elevator Pitch

Adopting an elevator pitch mindset can shape your overall professional approach, which can lead to many benefits.

Build Your Motivation And Self-Worth

When you cultivate a concise and compelling way to express yourself, you can tap into several personal benefits. You can become more confident, self-aware and intentional in your career pursuits. The elevator pitch, therefore, is a powerful guiding force that propels you toward success with clarity and purpose.

Create A Powerful Personal Brand Statement

The elevator pitch serves as a concise summary of your personal brand, highlighting your unique skills, experiences and value proposition. It's a way to distill your professional essence into a captivating narrative. An elevator pitch can be a great way to articulate what sets you apart and why others should take notice.

Make A Lasting Professional Impression

Whether you're attending a networking event, a conference or even a chance encounter in an actual elevator, having a well-prepared pitch at your disposal can help you put the right foot forward. By showcasing your expertise and passion in a compelling way, you can captivate your audience and leave a positive, memorable impression.

Seize Unexpected Opportunities

Life is full of unexpected moments where you find yourself with a brief window to make a connection or share your aspirations. By confidently articulating your goals and aspirations, you increase the likelihood of attracting opportunities that align with your professional ambitions.

3 Steps For Crafting A Compelling Professional Elevator Pitch

By communicating your strengths, goals and aspirations, a successful elevator pitch helps increase your chances of attracting mentors, sponsors and potential collaborators. It positions you as someone worth investing in and can lead to partnerships, job offers or exciting projects that may have otherwise been out of reach.

To create a compelling elevator pitch, it's crucial to identify your core value proposition. Here are actionable steps to help you articulate your professional value in a concise, impactful manner.

1. Reflect On Your Unique Skills, Experiences And Achievements

Before crafting your elevator pitch, take time to assess your professional journey. Identify the distinctive skills, experiences and achievements that set you apart. Here are some questions you can ask yourself:

• What are my areas of expertise or specialization?

• What unique skills do I possess that align with my target industry or role?

• What notable accomplishments or projects have I successfully completed?

• What kind of recognition, awards or accolades have I received?

By reflecting on these components, you'll gain a clearer understanding of your strengths and the value you bring to the table.

2. Understand How Your Expertise Addresses Industry Pain Points

Next, it's essential to align your expertise with the pain points and challenges within your target industry or audience. Address the following questions:

• How is my industry changing today?

• How does my skill set or experience uniquely position me to address these challenges?

• How can I provide solutions or perspectives that will benefit both organizations and individuals?

By recognizing the specific needs of your industry or audience, you can tailor your elevator pitch to showcase how your expertise can bring value.

3. Translate Your Professional Value Into A Powerful Statement

Once you've identified your unique skills and how they address industry pain points, it's time to distill your professional value into an impactful statement. Consider the following guidelines:

• Keep it concise. Your elevator pitch should be brief, typically lasting between 30 seconds and 1 minute.

• Use compelling language. Strong, action-oriented language helps convey confidence and expertise.

• Highlight tangible results. Whenever possible, incorporate specific examples or quantifiable achievements to showcase the impact you've already made in your field.

The transformative power of the elevator pitch resides in its capacity to enhance careers, cultivate meaningful connections and unlock pathways to fresh opportunities. By embracing its contemporary application, professionals can redefine their personal brand and navigate the professional world with confidence and purpose.

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